I used to surround myself with an army of fakes. Fake friends, fake colleagues and even I was a total fake. Thank God that is a thing of the past. Nowadays I don’t do fake. I see if someone’s fake from miles away and I can honestly say that everyone that are actively part of my life today are extremely well chosen (yes, chosen) and have passed hard tests and criterions set by me. Most of the time people in my life aren’t even aware of that they’ve gone through this process, but if you’re one of those people who I hang out with I can tell you, you have.
I’m not saying I’m totally anal when it comes to friends. Although they might be semi-somewhat like minded and have the same values as I do, there’s a huge diversity both in age, gender and personalities who fit into my gallery of friends. Even their looks vary. Some are preppy, some are street, some are grand old dames and some are filled with piercings. The latter would never have happened in the past. I judged the book by the cover real hard. I was VERY judgmental to be honest. That is one thing that I have actively worked on and now I see the person and their personality instead of what category the person superficially appears to fit into at first sight. I welcome all kinds of people to be my friends, but I still have criterions. I do not include people in my life who drain me out of energy. I do not include rude or unsophisticated people either. My friends and the people in my life are the ones who give me energy, comfort and joy. They’re part of all aspects of my life, but in different ways. I’m not saying you’re lucky to be in my life, I’m just saying you’re special. To me.
As I meet new people on a daily basis I’m very analytic of who I actually meet. I am very good at reading people without them even noticing it. I LOVE meeting new people. Like Becca who took these shots of me in London. She’s a total doll and we clicked from the second we met. I usually know within 30 seconds if I like a person or not. Does that sound narrow minded? Maybe. But then again, I don’t want to walk around with a fake army anymore.