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When life is an endless boot camp

When life is an endless boot camp

Fashion, Lifestyle

There might be times in your life when it feels like you’re on an endless boot camp. My week’s certainly been one of those. I shared a very personal post earlier this week, and it affected me in many ways. I got to a point where I realized I need to move on with my life and cherish the memories of past love with fondness instead of sadness. There’s been a significant change in my brain and my heart. I still love him, I always will, but for my own good I need to move on. I’m not saying I’m desperate for a new relationship, as I’m probably not the ideal boyfriend anyway. I’m just saying I cannot live in the past regarding this as everything else in my life has moved on and I’m achieving great things on every single level (well, except I haven’t gained all those muscles I set as a goal… yet!). Love hurts, but love is also a beautiful thing. My memories will not fade, nor will my love for that person. I just need a closure and this week I’ve finally let my heart have a chance at just that. Maybe my heart is not completely healed yet, but at least it’s patched up and ready to move on. It’s time to love myself again as I realize a whole bunch of other people apparently do.

Something else also resulted from my post. As I opened up about what I’ve been through I noticed that people reacted in various ways. Some were sad, some were supportive, some were angry and even hurt. My intention with this blog is not to make people neither sad nor anything else of the above (well, except for supportive, please hold on to that). However, this is not only a blog about fashion and jet setting or whatever. It’s a blog about me. There may be superficial posts in here and they will keep popping up, but the essence of this blog is honesty. Honesty in how I feel, what I think, what I like and don’t like as well as more worldly things such as the outfit in this picture which is a great start if you’re about to join the French Legion and wanna do it with some style and dignity.

To all of you who have contacted me lately: Thank you for helping me heal! That’s what friendship and love is all about and I’m spreading as much love back out there as I can. Over and out. img_7451img_7452 img_7198 img_7199 img_7455

Cap: H&M
Hoodie: SmakBang
Tee: Zara

Jeans: H&M
Watch: Frög Watches
Dog tag: Uh, no idea
Bag: From the Swedish army reserve

Photos: Simon Walles

30 Comments

  1. Isabel
    Saturday September 17th, 2016 at 11:18 PM
    Reply

    Dear Thomas, moving on doesn’t mean you don’t love him anymore; it means you love yourself again.
    I’m glad you did it!
    Love the special way you write, it’s a pleasure to read your posts. Keep your blog the way it is : honest. It’s perfect.
    And You look amazing in those photos, truly stylish.
    Love,
    Isabel

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 11:28 AM

      Thank you so much for your support Isabel! It means a lot to me.
      Love,
      Thomas

  2. Kreshma
    Sunday September 18th, 2016 at 12:21 AM
    Reply

    We are always here for you no matter what .. We have got your back ?♥️

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 11:29 AM

      You’re so sweet Kreshma!
      Kisses back at you 🙂

  3. Bernice
    Sunday September 18th, 2016 at 01:13 AM
    Reply

    I hope you feel better soon Thomas! Life is full of endless possibilities, and the only way we can discover new opportunities and strengths is by us being tested by obstacles and facing our own weaknesses.

    http://www.bunnybernice.com/single-post/2016/09/17/Getting-Ready-with-Colgate-Optic-White

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 11:29 AM

      That is also very true. I feell like I’ve faced most of them, now it’s this last one I need to face and finish. Thanks for your support!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  4. Eric K
    Sunday September 18th, 2016 at 11:37 AM
    Reply

    Buddy, this deff a personal post and I have to say that I was sad for you that your relationship ended. However, I was extremely happy for you at the same time, because you moved on. Here is the new you – you come first. Always remember that things happen for a reason buddy. That means that you have something incredible ahead of you buddy.
    If you ever need support, I’m always here for you buddy.

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 11:38 AM

      Eric my friend, thank you SO much for your support! It truly is heart warming to read your comment and knowing you’ve got my back!

  5. Merima
    Sunday September 18th, 2016 at 04:29 PM
    Reply

    Incredible shots. Amazing style.
    Would you like to follow me back?
    https://glaringwaves.blogspot.ba/

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 11:38 AM

      Thanks Merima! 🙂

  6. Molly
    Sunday September 18th, 2016 at 04:31 PM
    Reply

    Great post, great photos! Proud of you for being vulnerable. My husband left me in February and it was the hardest post. 6 months later I finally wrote my story and it was released as “4 ways to fearlessly deal with trails.” It was so special having the support of the Internet world, so I’m here standing with you and saying love is not easy, but time will help your heart heal. Keep pursuing your passions and doing what you love. You got this!!

    Keep smiling!
    Molly ~ http://www.stylemissmolly.com/index.php/2016/08/25/4-ways-fearlessly-deal-trials/

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 11:43 AM

      Dear Molly, I’m deeply sorry to hear that you’ve been through rough times as well, but at the same time it’s such a relief to have friends in here to talk to. I’m deeply grateful for all your support sweetie!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  7. Cece Lam
    Sunday September 18th, 2016 at 04:47 PM
    Reply

    Love hurts and you are so brave. <3 Please keep your head up, my dear. You can get through this. Xoxo message me if you ever want to talk!!! We are here for you.

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 12:40 PM

      Thanks babe! Your support means the world to me. <3
      xoxo
      Thomas

  8. Sharon Wu
    Sunday September 18th, 2016 at 07:54 PM
    Reply

    Awww Thomas! I love how open and honest you are in your posts. It’s hard to find genuine people nowadays and I’m so glad that you’re one of the rare ones <3 I totally agree that love can hurt and I've had my fair share of failed relationships as well. You'll get through this with time as time heals all and you always have us here supporting you. Have a great new week! xo, sharon

    http://www.stylelullaby.com/fashion/back-school-style-american-eagle/

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 12:41 PM

      Aww sweetie. Right back at you about being genuine (besides gorgeous and flawless and all that)!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  9. Aliya
    Sunday September 18th, 2016 at 10:07 PM
    Reply

    Nice look! The denim is amazing!

    XOXO, Aliya
    http://www.aliyapatrice.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 12:42 PM

      Thanks Aliya! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  10. Christine Kong
    Monday September 19th, 2016 at 12:35 AM
    Reply

    Thank you for your personal and heartbreaking post. I think for many of us our blogs are a way to express ourselves and they can be painful at times, fun, inspirational, etc. It is whatever we are going through. I know this time will pass eventually and you will only become better and stronger for the experiences and pain you go through. We are always here for you! Sending you lots of hugs, Christine
    http://dailykongfidence.com/

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 12:43 PM

      Christine, thank you so much for your kind words. They made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside!
      Lots of hugs back at you!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  11. Stephanie
    Monday September 19th, 2016 at 12:52 AM
    Reply

    I totally love the fact that you get so personal in your posts. It’s amazing to see the vulnerability and depth to your character through your writing. I’m also totally loving your style! So glad I found you!

    Stephanie // SheSawStyle.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 12:50 PM

      Thank you so much for your support and compliments Stephanie! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  12. Gina Diaz
    Monday September 19th, 2016 at 12:16 PM
    Reply

    I happy to hear that you’ve move on Thomas! your pictures and style its always amazing 🙂
    sending you a hug as big as the ocean, much love Gina.

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Monday September 19th, 2016 at 12:51 PM

      Thank you so much for your support sweetie as well as your compliments!
      A huge hug right back at you no matter how many oceans it crosses.
      xoxo
      Thomas

  13. Rachel
    Monday September 19th, 2016 at 02:34 PM
    Reply

    You look great! Love the style!

    http://chicglamstyle.com

  14. Jalisa
    Monday September 19th, 2016 at 10:24 PM
    Reply

    Thomas, I’m sorry to learn how you’re feeling. I know it feels hard to continue to move on, but you are so right in saying that it’s time to love yourself. Loving yourself and knowing and recognizing your self worth is one of the greatest things you can acknowledge and I encourage you to do seek out on that journey, as it really is a journey. As for your outfit, I simply adore how these pieces merge together to create such a stylish, causal pairing! Those jeans have the perfect distress and I love the color combo of both olive green and grey together, especially for fall! Thanks so much for sharing and I hope you have the best start to your week; life will get better, believe me 🙂

    XO,

    Jalisa
    http://www.thestylecontour.com

  15. Sofia
    Tuesday September 20th, 2016 at 06:33 AM
    Reply

    I’m here for you <3

  16. Julia
    Tuesday September 20th, 2016 at 10:11 AM
    Reply

    I’m so sorry to hear you have been through such a rough time, but I love how open and honest you are in your posts and I’m glad you’re feeling stronger and ready to move on. On another point, I love this outfit -the colours are perfect!
    Julia x
    http://www.thevelvetrunway.com

  17. Adelina
    Tuesday September 20th, 2016 at 11:25 PM
    Reply

    I love your open and honest posts. There’s nothing to be sad about here, just hold on to all the beautiful memories and have peace within your heart that this is for the best. It is normal to go through the stages of accepting that “this is it now” but life is amazing and full of new adventures that come when you least expect them! Follow your heart, you are stronger because of your experiences! Love this look! Sending warm thoughts your way! xo, Adelina

    http://thecharmingolive.com

  18. Varuna jithesh
    Saturday October 21st, 2017 at 06:24 PM
    Reply

    Nice outfits..

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