![[:en]Be yourself, be fabulous, be schizofrenic[:sv]Finns inget sexigare än självförtroende[:]](http://www.thomasfalkenstedt.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/Cover-thats-all-1-770x512.jpg)
[:en]Literally the most attractive thing about human beings is when they’re being their true selves. That’s a huge turn on for me. And for once I don’t mean a sexual turn on (even if it works between the sheets too). With self confidence and a personality to match it I’m bound to fall for a person whether it’s a friend, a business contact, that old lady selling bagels at Spitalfields Market in London, a lover, a neighbor or just a total stranger walking by (I think you’re getting the picture here so there’s no need to go on). Self confidence is sexy!
I meet a lot of people. Every freaking day. I’m also a people watcher. I watch people strolling the streets, sitting on benches, in shops and so on. I’m immediately drawn to people who stick out of the crowd. People who have that certain something that make them unique and they’d stand out even if they’d be surrounded by a crowd of thousands. I also immediately get an urge to make some sort of acquaintance with that person. I’m the kind of guy who can walk up to a person in the street, tell them “damn, you got great style, wanna meet up for a coffee some time?” and give them my business card. Some people are confused by my behavior, but the ones who aren’t are people who still are part of my life somehow even 15 years later. I’m a people person, but also a total lone wolf. I can be social for hours and surround myself with people that in some way or another boost me, but then I want to go to my own flat, lock the door and just hang out by myself. Netflix n chill with no pizza involved so to speak. Call me somewhat schizo, but that’s just who I am. 🙂
I suppose I ought to mention fashion here as well. If you follow me on Instagram you know I love statement tees. I also love combining high and low. Well, in this outfit I found a lovely sweater at H&M with Looney Toons on it (although I’m more of a Disney guy) and after having this photo shoot I realized my entire outfit actually came from H&M. So with a minimum budget I think I actually look quite fab. Or I don’t “think” I look fab. I AM fab. Why? Cause I’ve got self confidence!
Sweater: H&M
Jeans: H&M
Shoes: H&M
Bag: H&M
Photos: Hugo Hofverberg[:sv]Det finns två saker jag tänder på hos folk rent generellt. Det är självförtoende och genuinitet. Förstå mig inte fel. Ytlighet kan vara kul det med, så länge det görs med en stor dos självdistans. När jag säger “tänder på” så syftar jag inte på det sexuella, även om det såklart är en rejäl turn on även även i sänghalmen. Jag syftar på vänner, kollegor, affärskontakter, mina favorittanter på ICA Nära i Lund, älskare, men i princip vem som helst. Jag är en udda fågel. Jag älskar att kolla på folk vare sig jag sitter på ett fik och ser dem passera eller går på stan. Jag analyserar och observerar. Inget går mig förbi. De säger att opposites attract, men i mitt fall dras jag nog till lika udda fåglar som mig själv. Om jag ser någon intressant person på stan så känner jag att “fan vad den här personen är cool och chansen att jag någonsin går förbi personen igen är minimal (åtminstone i Malmö där jag inte har samma igenkänningsfaktor som hemma i Sthlm)” så jag går helt sonika fram till personen, säger “shit vad du är cool, vill du fika nån gång?” och ger dem mitt visitkort. Det är faktiskt ungefär så jag träffat flera av mina närmsta och äldsta vänner om än i olika situationer. Har dock inte hittat alla mina vänner på gatan! 😉
Jag träffar så otroligt många människor konstant vilket har gjort mig kräsen. Jag har inte tid (ingen har det, man lever x antal dagar, sedan är man död, punkt) att umgås med slentrianmässiga kontakter som inte ger mig något i utbyte. Jag vill umgås med människor som tillför mitt liv något och som även jag kan tillföra något åt. Således har jag just nu en handfull handplockade vänner (det här funkar åt båda hållen, har inte tvingat någon att vara min vän) som förgyller mitt liv något oerhört. De som inte ryms i näven tillför även de något. Genom att vara starka personer gör de även mig stark. Självförtroende smittar av sig och fan vad det är sexigt!
För att snacka mode vill jag återigen slå ett slag för H&M. Jag älskar H&M. Innan den här plåtningen hade jag idétorka, men gick in på H&M, hittade en härlig tröja och vips så var jag glad för ynka 149 spänn. Lättköpt glädje måhända, men långvarig sådan. Att sedan allt annat jag har på mig också är från H&M var en slump. Det bevisar bara hur mångsidigt H&M är. Du kan verkligen klä upp dig eller klä ner dig genom hela spektrat från kostymer till streetmode. H&M är en sjukt vass aktör och även om den finns i lågprissegmentet med många konkurrenter finns det ingen som når upp till samma nivå. Om någon vill nörda ner sig i hur en grymt bra företagsstruktur är uppbyggd kan man läsa på om H&M. Det har jag gjort. De har full koll på vad som säljer i Haparanda, men inte i Halmstad och inom ett dygn har kläderna bytt plats. H&M har självförtroende som fan de med. Man kan ha självförtroende utan en massa yttre attribut. Genom att vara sig själv är man oemotståndlig, åtminstone för mig.
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Bernice
September 20, 2016 at 8:38 amIt’s so important to be true to ourselves, but also get along with others. Self confidence is so attractive in a person, to see them be unequivocally themselves is refreshing in a world where people can try be something they’re not to fit into a certain mouldy that society has dictated we should be part of. stay true to you Thomas!
http://www.bunnybernice.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:04 pmThanks Bernice! Let’s both stay true to ourselves!
xoxo
Thomas
Deddeh Howard
September 22, 2016 at 3:34 pmWow. My first time on your blog and I’m already in love. I agree with you, it’s so important to be yourself. It just makes life some much easier and fun. People will accept you and love you for who you are. Such a great post??
Heidi
September 20, 2016 at 8:39 amI hear you!
I agree with you!
I love you!
<3
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:04 pmLove you too!
Julia
September 20, 2016 at 10:31 amLove this H&M look – that sweater is great!
I also really admire your self confidence! I’m a people watcher too, but wouldn’t be brave enough to go up to anyone!!
Julia x
http://www.thevelvetrunway.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:05 pmIt’s something that needs a bit of training, but I’m sure you’ll get there. 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Eric K
September 20, 2016 at 1:25 pmYou are absolutely right on buddy. Being true is an attraction and turn on. For sure self confidence is the key. Love love love the sweater bro ??????
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:06 pmThanks so much buddy! 😀
Merima Kopic
September 20, 2016 at 3:38 pmI agree you look fabulous, hah. Great styling.
Can you follow me back?
https://glaringwaves.blogspot.ba/
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:06 pmHaha thanks Merima! 😀
Stephanie
September 20, 2016 at 3:39 pmOkay, were we separated at birth? Because in the first few paragraphs you pretty much described me – twins! Social butterfly but I like to keep to myself. Someone once said that’s an introverted extrovert (or was it extroverted introvert? Eh, either one). I think I confuse people slightly, but hey, sometimes that’s the fun in it 😉 Also, I agree you look quite fab. H&M is my favorite place to shop, especially on a budget, and that Looney Tunes top is super cute (although, I’ll agree Disney is even better). Love this post!
Stephanie // SheSawStyle.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:07 pmHaha, I’m quite sure we were! You sound like my long lost soul twin 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Sharon Wu
September 20, 2016 at 5:20 pmLOL! Thomas your posts always crack me up. You and I would get along so well with those “that’s what she said” jokes. HA! Anyways, I really loved this post and couldn’t agree more with you — there is nothing more than authenticity in a person that is more attractive! This is why I love you because you always keep it real. Thank you for always sharing such interesting and insightful posts with us. You’re such a big inspiration! xo, sharon
http://www.stylelullaby.com/fashion/creating-balance-outfit-trollbeads/
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:09 pmHahaha, I know we right, we’d hit it off with a lot of other jokes as well!
On a more serious note your words are so kind and I’m so grateful for having you as a friend!
xoxo
Thomas
Christine Kong
September 20, 2016 at 6:08 pmThis Daffy Duck sweater is too cute and I love the back of it. And totally agree, self confidence is the best accessory as they say so rock it. Nothing is more admirable than someone who owns it and struts it. Amen! xoxo, Christine
http://dailykongfidence.com/
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:10 pmThanks sweetie! Let’s keep rocking!
xoxo
Thomas
Jalisa
September 20, 2016 at 6:47 pmThomas, I LOVE this post! It truly is a pleasure reading what you’ve got to say, honestly. You make me laugh, nod in agreement with many of the things you share, as well as cause me to think (in a good way! haha). I think confidence is truly something to admire because not many of us have it, so when we see someone who embodies this quality (obviously in a healthy dose!) it really is quite awesome. Plus, being around such people can bring out the best in you because those who are truly confident don’t mind complimenting and encouraging you, too! Like, for example, you have no problem going up to someone and sharing a compliment. I’m the same way. I really strive to encourage and build up others I come in contact with, in whichever way I can, there’s always something nice we can say to someone and it would make their day, some their entire day! I’ve told you this before, but I’m going to say it again, you need to have your own graphic tee collection, seriously! You always wear such fun and interesting graphics and it’s become somewhat of your signature, too! I love this all black look, which has some edgy undertones, but the graphic adds a bit of quirkiness to it; I LOVE it! Thanks so much for sharing; I hope you’re having the BEST day so far!
XO,
Jalisa
http://www.thestylecontour.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:12 pmJalisa, you seriously are the sweetest ever! I totally should think about starting my own business of selling graphic tees as I know I’d at least have one customer buying them 🙂
Have a great day as well!
Love,
Thomas
Gina Diaz
September 20, 2016 at 9:30 pmThomas, I love your style, I have to express it each time that I have the opportunity 🙂 thank you so much for such a great post!
kiss, kiss Gina
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:12 pmAnd every time I’m equally grateful for such great compliments from you sweetie!
xoxo
Thomas
Diana
September 20, 2016 at 10:41 pmGreat style, you make low end look so high end! I can tell by looking at your pictures that you are a confident person. Hope you are having a great week.
http://www.effortlesslady.co
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:13 pmThank you so much Diana! Compliments like that keep me going!
Hope you’re having a great week as well!
xoxo
Thomas
Adelina
September 20, 2016 at 11:16 pmI love reading your posts! So open, honest and personal!! Confidence, charisma, love for life … its all sexy! I believe that in order to be yourself, you have to feel comfortable within you own skin, and feel comfortable with your surroundings and life as a whole. Confidence can come and go so easily! You are fortunate to see so many people every day, not everyone lives in a city. There’s just something so fun to living in a city and interacting with people on the daily. Its my favorite thing ever! Thanks for sharing!! xo, Adelina
http://thecharmingolive.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:22 pmAww Adelina, thanks for your kind words! 🙂 But don’t think of the city as the only place where you can meet and interact with people in. You can do it equally well at your local supermarket, although I must admit the clientel might not be as exciting… Haha.
xoxo
Thomas
Caroline
September 20, 2016 at 11:24 pmI agree with this times a million! When people are confident it weirdly attracts me to them too. With fashion especially! When anyone acts like they own their look, I am sold.
I adore your oversized sweatshirt & distressed jeans- super on trend without being over the top about it.
Also, you are a great writer and seem so genuine! Love to have found you through insta xoxo
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:23 pmCaroline my dear, you’re such a sweetie giving me such compliments! I’m overwhelmed 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Atsuna Matsui
September 21, 2016 at 3:16 amI adore your donald duck sweater!! You’re looking so fab even in casual wear.
xoxo
http://www.atsunamatsui.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
September 21, 2016 at 12:23 pmThank you so much Atsuna! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Lauren
September 22, 2016 at 3:01 amI loved the intro to this blog post! I appreciate that you write about life and observations as well as fashion! Great post Thomas!
XX
Lauren
thevoguespy.com
Linh Dao
September 22, 2016 at 3:20 amThomas! Thanks for the love on my blog! I totally love your post! Being yourself is such an important thing and confidence is definitely sexy and I love that about people I come across. You seem like a person I would get along with! Thanks for sharing your thoughts! BTW I love your style! So clean!
thomasfalkenstedt.com
October 5, 2016 at 8:06 pmAww, thank you so much for your kind words Linh. And besides… I KNOW we’d get along really well 😀
xoxo
Thomas