I actually bought this shirt just cause I was doing some massive shopping at Pull & Bear and it wasn’t until later that I saw what it actually said. And true, it might be a cliché, but it’s so easy to not stay true to yourself and to forget about where you came from. I would know as I’ve been an expert on both regards.
As it comes to staying true to yourself I’ve been a lot of different personas throughout my life. I mean, I’m sure we all have different personas (or personalities if you wish) depending on how we act in different situations or in different groups of people, but what I’m referring to is that I’ve seriously been many different personas during my lifetime. I’ve been the snob, I’ve been the victim, I’ve been the judgemental and arrogant one. The list could probably go on forever. What it all comes down to is my own insecurity and low self esteem. I’m none of those personas anymore. Thomas Falkenstedt today is actually one heck of a loving and caring person with high self esteem and self confidence (and that is the first and last time you’ll ever hear me talk about myself in third person). So, how did I get to where I am now?
All I can say is: I’ve hit rock bottom, but I’ve made it back up. As soon as I have the courage to tell you guys what I’ve been through, you’ll be the first to know. The details aren’t relevant for this post though. I’m not saying everyone should hit rock bottom in order to be as humble and loving as I nowadays am, but I’m saying everyone should take a look at the reasons why they “hate”, “dislike” or just frown at people. There’s a person behind every facade. I see that person. I do dislike people. I’m no saint. But I haven’t put them in the dislike bin before thorough analysis of why they’re not to my taste, i.e. why they will be of no value in my life, and hence I let them exist, but don’t pay any attention to them. What I’m trying to say is that there’s more to the eye than what someone wears, what their social background is, what color their skin is, what their sexuality is and even though this one’s a biggie for me that I’m working on, what their religion is. To conclude this post: Do not judge people you don’t know! (Something I was really good at) Try loving instead of hating! The love you send out there will be returned, some way or another. Don’t like the word “love”? Feel free to replace it with “friendly gesture”, “a smile” or just “common decency”.