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The art of being grateful

The art of being grateful

Fashion, Life itself

Some posts back I wrote about how hard it is for me to actually appreciate what I have accomplished and achieved and that I have a hard time living in the present and actually appreciating what I’ve got. For that very reason I’ve sat down and actually thought about my current status in life and have spent the afternoon making a gratitude list. I’ve written down every single thing I can think of that I’m grateful for at the moment and to my surprise the list is too long to post in here and here I was thinking “I’m glad if I can come up with three things”.

So what’s actually on my list you might wonder? Well, here are a few samples:

  1. I’m alive. Does it sound too obvious? Well it isn’t. A bit over a year ago it wasn’t at all something I could take for granted. I was on the verge of dying, but life chose me. One year later it’s easy to think, “so what?”, but today I actually thoroughly thought about that I might not be sitting here writing this blog post at all. Instead, my family and my friends would be gathering around my grave tomorrow as we commemorate All Hallows Eve in Sweden on which we pay our respect to our beloveded deceased ones by placing candles of their graves.
  2. I have a beautiful home, I’m financially stable (although not economically indepent…yet), have a 9-5 job with wonderful colleagues, have a full time job blogging about my life with a twist of fashion, beauty and travels, have amazing friends and basically, I have nothing to complain about.
  3. My trip has only begun. I bought this sweater in June this summer when I was in Paris. That was before I started blogging and only had Instagram as a semi hobby. I couldn’t even have imagined that I today am a brand ambassador for that very same brand I adored so much alredy back then. To be an ElevenParis ambassador is just one of the many things my blogging has given me, but the most important thing it has given me is the self esteem, knowing my self worth and that I keep growing as a person for every comment I get, whether it be out on town, through Facebook or in the comment field below. I am truly blessed! But like I said, my trip has only begun and who knows what awaits me. I’m more than ecstatic about finding out where this path will lead.

thomas-5thomas-6thomas-4Coat: H&M
Shirt: Weekday
Sweater: ElevenParis
Jeans: River Island
Shoes: H&M

92 Comments

  1. Heidi Raisma
    Friday November 4th, 2016 at 04:42 PM
    Reply

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    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:28 PM

      Kärlek tillbaka, kära Heidi! <3

  2. Linh Dao
    Friday November 4th, 2016 at 06:15 PM
    Reply

    Wow Thomas, I’m glad you are doing something great for yourself and glad you are alive because we would have never met the wonderful you! Thanks for being so open! Love you dearly! Keep up the great work darling!

    Love, Linh
    http://xcapewithlinh.com/im-so-into-you/

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:29 PM

      Thank you so much darling! Lots of love back!

  3. Stephanie
    Friday November 4th, 2016 at 08:08 PM
    Reply

    If I were to begin a list, I know I would include the fact that I’m grateful for your presence in my life (which means I’m SO glad you’re alive to be present in my life). I feel like I’m missing part of your story there, but one way or another, I’m happy you’re continuing your story and sharing it with all of us who are blessed enough to read it.

    Stephanie // SheSawStyle.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:30 PM

      Stephanie, your comment went straight to my heart and I’m keeping it safe in there with all other good things that make me happy. You’re one of a kind!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  4. Brittany
    Friday November 4th, 2016 at 08:46 PM
    Reply

    Thanks for being so open- it is always good to look at the positives and gain some perspective.

    <3
    http://www.outofofficeny.com/put-some-south-in-yo-mouth/

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:30 PM

      Thanks for reading! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  5. Sharon Wu
    Friday November 4th, 2016 at 08:53 PM
    Reply

    That sitting shot is my fave of you here, Thomas! So good! Thank you for this reminder to be grateful. One thing I know I’m grateful for is the fact that I have you as a friend and that you make time out of your busy day every day to put up with me! 😉 LOL. hehehe. And… yes, I’m grateful for a roof over my head, family, friends, etc. as well! Never stop inspiring, Thomas! Have a wonderful weekend and try to get some rest lol xo, sharon

    http://www.stylelullaby.com/fashion/the-great-gatsby/

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:31 PM

      Busy? Me? Naah, I basically just lay on my couch 16 hours a day chatting with you 😉 Loves ya!

  6. Jo
    Friday November 4th, 2016 at 09:04 PM
    Reply

    The images in this post are priceless, Thomas! This is a great reminder post as I really needed it. You are right as there are so many beautiful things in our lives we should be grateful for. I complain about my job but again there are so many people who lost their jobs in the industry I am in. I am especially grateful that I met you through blogging. You are such a kind soul. Hopefully our path will cross one day so I can get to meet you in person.

    xo,
    Jo
    http://www.glamfashoinbook.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:32 PM

      Well thank you on both the compliments on the images as well as the content. I know by now that our paths really will meet someday soon and I am so grateful to have made friends with you through blogging!
      Love,
      Thomas

  7. Hadasah Love | Style To Love
    Friday November 4th, 2016 at 09:27 PM
    Reply

    Gorgeous! Love it 🙂
    XOXO, Hadasah Love
    http://www.styletolove.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:32 PM

      Thanks Hadash! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  8. Eric K
    Friday November 4th, 2016 at 09:45 PM
    Reply

    You are always reminding me my old habits … Writing things that you are grateful for is an amazing one . I’m always grateful for everything I have, and because of that I always get more or path to get more is open for me … Very important buddy . Love this blog . My fav
    http://www.erickfasion.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:33 PM

      Thank you so much for your kind words Eric, you keep inspiring me to keep going!

  9. Danielle
    Friday November 4th, 2016 at 10:33 PM
    Reply

    Need to take a lesson from you and make a list of my own! I love that you did this and now have it on here to look back on down the road. Looking SO fab in that sweater, which I’m obsessed with by the way, and I adore the layered look!!

    Xx Danielle | Pineapple & Prosecco

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:34 PM

      Thank you sweet Danielle! Your comment means a lot to me! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  10. Bernice
    Friday November 4th, 2016 at 10:51 PM
    Reply

    I always love your sense of style! And yes it is important for us all to be grateful for the things we have and where we are in life. I’m sure the list of things you’re grateful for is too long to put in this post! Have a good day Thomas xx

    http://www.bunnybernice.com/single-post/2016/11/04/Love-comes-in-all-sizes

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:35 PM

      Thanks Bernice! 🙂 For starters, I’m very grateful of this comment! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  11. Isabel
    Friday November 4th, 2016 at 11:30 PM
    Reply

    I was missing your posts and when I came here to check it all I found this amazing one 🙂
    You are truly special my dear and being grateful means that you deserve all the good things that are happening in your life.
    I’m so glad you are here to tell us how to do it 🙂
    Keep up the good work, your blog is my fav one.
    Bisous,

    Isabel

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:37 PM

      Aww Isabel. You’re truly one of a kind! Thank you!
      Bisous,
      Thomas

  12. Samantha Mariko
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 12:37 AM
    Reply

    It’s good to step back sometimes and appreciate what we have than what we don’t have. I have to do this once in a while to take a breather 🙂 nice outfit post!
    http://www.samanthamariko.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:38 PM

      I’m glad you can relate and that you’ve come to appreciate a breather every now and then. Thanks for the compliment! 🙂

  13. Jo
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 12:45 AM
    Reply

    Thanks for this post! It truly is so important to take a moment to remember the things to be grateful for. Admittedly, I often forget to do this, instead getting caught up with work, the stress of what still needs to be done, and well, life!! So thanks for the reminder to stop for a moment and reflect on all there is to be grateful for.

    xo, Jo
    http://www.cutandchic.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:39 PM

      As much as you’re thankful for this post, I’m thankful for your comment. Let’s me know I’m not alone out there. 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  14. Caprice Bianca
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 01:27 AM
    Reply

    It’s nice to write down what we are grateful for to remind ourselves once in awhile. I can learn a lot from you! I have the same tee shirt ?

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:40 PM

      Aaah, that means we’re siblings then? Haha. 🙂

  15. Yasmin
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 02:37 AM
    Reply

    For someone who’s only recently started your blog, it’s fantastic! And so professional. Your images are beautiful as well. And I love that sweater.

    xx Yasmin
    http://banglesandbungalows.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:40 PM

      Thank you so much Yasmin! Comments like yours keep me going! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  16. Atsuna Matsui
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 02:57 AM
    Reply

    Omg so cool to know that you’ve grown so far with your blog to get to the point where you are today. 🙂 Hehe reading your blog posts always gets me more inspired and motivated to keep grinding and hustling. I’d love to see a post of what the inside of your home looks like some day!

    xoxo
    http://www.atsunamatsui.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:41 PM

      Ooh, a home interior request. Who knows, maybe I’ll do an interior post when it gets closer to Christmas with all the decorations up and stuff. 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  17. Jordan Chapman
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 03:32 AM
    Reply

    It seems like you’re really making your way in the world!! You’ll have these memories to look back on in the future!
    xxx
    Jordan
    http://www.thehatlogic.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:42 PM

      Thank you so much for actually pointing out for me what this post was about. Sometimes you don’t realize what you’ve written until someone else gives you some perspective. 🙂

      xoxo
      Thomas

  18. Helen Chik
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 05:47 AM
    Reply

    What a fantastic post mister! I think people in our generation very often forget to remind ourselves of what we should be grateful for and this post is such a great reminder!!

    Helen xx
    https://ch1k.com/why-i-quit-my-job

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:43 PM

      Very true. Our forefathers would’ve considered us spoiled brats (which we in many respects are…)
      xoxo
      Thomas

  19. Miki
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 06:05 AM
    Reply

    I love your photos. The one in front of Eiffel Tower is my favourite. These are great are nice tips. So awesome you get to work with a brand you love. 🙂 It’s a really nice reminder to be grateful for all the things we have going for us. 🙂

    Xo,
    Miki
    http://mikialamode.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:51 PM

      Thank you so much Miki! 🙂 I’m really happy about it too and I’m glad you like the pictures!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  20. Frank Lin
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 07:44 AM
    Reply

    Thomas, this is such a wonderful post and it makes me want to write gratitude list, too. We should be way more thankful for all the things we have.
    Btw. I’m pretty glad you’re alive!!

    X frank

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:52 PM

      Thank you so much, Frank. It means a lot to me coming from you and if I weren’t alive I wouldn’t get to meet you, now would I? 🙂
      xx
      Thomas

  21. Kathryn
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 03:44 PM
    Reply

    Oh my gosh cannot get enough of your sweater… Also it’s so easy to take things for granted in life. Love that you’ve taken the time to write them all down & reflect on all of them — so important! Thanks for sharing Thomas 🙂
    Xx, K
    http://www.jassamineelaine.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:56 PM

      Thank you sweet Katrhyn! Your comment truly made me happy! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  22. Christine Kong
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 05:17 PM
    Reply

    Gratitude is something we have to practice everyday and it is such a game changer. If we see things with gratitude, our whole attitude changes and we become positive and happy. Thanks for sharing your personal stories and the things you are grateful for. I think we all need a little reminder like this to help us out! xoxo, Christine
    http://dailykongfidence.com/

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:57 PM

      Thank you for taking the time reading this post, dear!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  23. Deddeh Howard
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 05:31 PM
    Reply

    You know something we all forget to appreciate what we have and it’s so healthy to come back to that. I love your story and how you’re happy. Such a great and inspiring post. Oh and that Paris shot is breath taking.

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:57 PM

      Thank you so much for your kind words! You’re simply adorable Deddeh! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  24. Muriëlle van Schaik
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 06:26 PM
    Reply

    I really love your style! Wish more men would dress like you!

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:57 PM

      Aww thank you so much! 🙂

  25. gracie
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 09:42 PM
    Reply

    Health is something none of us should take for granted, I love your positive posts and how grateful you are !!!! It’s so inspiring to hear your thoughts & read your posts. Good energy is contagious, so keep it coming !
    xx, gracie
    snappedbygracie.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:58 PM

      I’m glad it’s contagious so I’ll try to keep it coming. 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  26. Jenn Hanft
    Saturday November 5th, 2016 at 10:42 PM
    Reply

    Aw this was such a lovely post! It’s always great to take a step to admire and appreciate everything you’re grateful for! It’s amazing that you’re now a brand ambassador for a company you love! You’ve come so far!! I’m definitely grateful for the support I’ve received from those around me and meeting so many individuals across the border in this blogging world. It’s so great that we can all lift each other higher!

    XO Jenn
    http://www.jennsemble.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 07:59 PM

      I’m so glad we’ve found each other in here too dear Jenn! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  27. Jessie
    Sunday November 6th, 2016 at 02:15 AM
    Reply

    I love this post! sometimes I think we chase too many things that we don’t have and end up being unhappy. Being contented and cherish what we have is more important 🙂

    Love the outfit in this post btw.

    Xx
    Jessie
    http://4evajessie.com/hidden-gem-lane-ways-hong-kong/

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:00 PM

      That is very true, Jessie. If we’d focus on what we have instead we wouldn’t feel miserable as much as we do!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  28. Jen
    Sunday November 6th, 2016 at 03:19 AM
    Reply

    This is so inspiring! Now I’m making a list of all the things I’m thankful for!

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:00 PM

      Glad I could be of inspiration! 🙂

  29. Yuena Li
    Sunday November 6th, 2016 at 05:54 AM
    Reply

    Awwwww Thomas, you still have so much ahead of you. I’m glad you’re focusing on the good instead of the bad. We often take granted for what we have all the time. I remember what got me through the darker days was thinking it can ALWAYS be worse. Keep pushing!

    With Love,
    Yuena

    http://simplyyue.wordpress.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:01 PM

      Thank you so much Yuena! And yes, I’m trying to focus on the good nowadays and am glad people like you keep me focused on just that! 🙂
      Love,
      Thomas

  30. Carissah
    Sunday November 6th, 2016 at 10:48 AM
    Reply

    There are lots of things to be thankful for. This is a great post?? keep it up!

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:01 PM

      Thank you so much Carissah! 🙂

  31. Marcy
    Sunday November 6th, 2016 at 02:26 PM
    Reply

    Such a great post! Really enjoyed reading this! Thanks for Sharing

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:02 PM

      Thanks a lot, Marcy! 🙂

  32. Lady Goldapple
    Sunday November 6th, 2016 at 05:28 PM
    Reply

    I did not know you where an ElevenParis ambassador. That is so cool. There is a lot to be grateful for, you’ve accomplished so much be proud babe, X Charissa
    http://www.ladygoldapple.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:02 PM

      I know right! I just became one a while ago. 🙂 And thanks babe!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  33. Aldora
    Sunday November 6th, 2016 at 06:12 PM
    Reply

    Another amazing share from you Thomas! I agree that being grateful is powerful to turn your life around for the better. And congrats on your ElevenParis ambassadorship! You deserve it for all the hard work you’ve put into your IG & blog 🙂

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:03 PM

      Thank you so much, Aldora! I’m glad someone undertands how much work it actually is! 🙂

  34. Kreshma
    Sunday November 6th, 2016 at 11:26 PM
    Reply

    So glad that u actually took time to write about this .. have always been proud of u my fiend 🙂

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:03 PM

      Aww, Kreshma, you’re the sweetest! 🙂

  35. Candace
    Monday November 7th, 2016 at 01:15 AM
    Reply

    Definitely need to take a step back and be more appreciative of what I have as well. I am so thankful I’m alive too because I wouldn’t be able to enjoy our wonderful world of fashion and get inspiration from others! That sweater is so nice on you and great styling per usual 🙂

    http://www.thebeautybeau.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:04 PM

      Thank you so much for your kind words, Candace! 🙂

  36. Rachel
    Monday November 7th, 2016 at 05:18 AM
    Reply

    Great shots! Looks great!

    http://chicglamstyle.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:04 PM

      Thanks a lot, Rachel! 🙂

  37. Darlene
    Monday November 7th, 2016 at 05:40 PM
    Reply

    Wow congratulations on working with the brand you admire. It happened to me too, when I started blogging I said im going to work with this brand someday and it happened a year after. You look amazing and goodluck on more projects

    x
    Darlene

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:04 PM

      Aww, thanks a lot Darlene! You’re a true inspiration!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  38. Maryam
    Monday November 7th, 2016 at 08:23 PM
    Reply

    You are such an inspiration! Thank you for this post and reminding us to be greatful! Love your positive energy!!!

    xx, Maryam
    http://www.glamandposh.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:05 PM

      Just as much as you’re an inspiration to me, Maryam!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  39. diana
    Monday November 7th, 2016 at 08:37 PM
    Reply

    9 jobs, sounds so crazy! how do you find time to do blog?

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:05 PM

      Haha, hun, A (1) 9-5 job. Not 9 jobs, that would kill me more than what it already does with one…

  40. Tania
    Monday November 7th, 2016 at 09:45 PM
    Reply

    Love these pictures in front of the Eiffel tower, the shots are epic! Thanks also for the reminder to count my blessings =)

    xx freshfizzle

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:06 PM

      Thanks, Tania! I appreciate your compliments! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  41. samira
    Tuesday November 8th, 2016 at 02:11 AM
    Reply

    so inspiring! love these photos as well and I have this shirt but in the girls tee version 🙂 looks great on you!!

    xo, samira

    wwe.leathertolunch.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:06 PM

      Ohh, so cool! So we’re siblings now ain’t we? Haha.
      xoxo
      Thomas

  42. gigi
    Tuesday November 8th, 2016 at 04:08 AM
    Reply

    Such beautiful words! Yes we all need to be more grateful right?! We all have so much good going in our lives, just need to realize it more!! Well said as always xx

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:07 PM

      Hence, let’s be grateful! 🙂 Thanks for reading!
      xoxo
      Thomas

  43. francesca
    Tuesday November 8th, 2016 at 06:27 AM
    Reply

    this is such a beautiful post! It’s all about taking a moment to think about things and take it all in and be thankful! xxx loved this post
    francesca
    Frank Vinyl : A California Fashion Blog

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:07 PM

      Thank you for reading it my dear! 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

  44. michenn
    Tuesday November 8th, 2016 at 03:13 PM
    Reply

    I love positive posts like these! I’ve been debating writing a gratitude journal for a while and I think your post inspired me to do that. It’s so easy to get caught up with life that we forget what we’re thankful for. Thank you for the reminder!

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:08 PM

      I’m glad I could inspire you, and when you do write it down, you’ll realize how much there is to be thankful for! 🙂

  45. Natalia K
    Wednesday November 9th, 2016 at 12:34 AM
    Reply

    I love this post Thomas gratitude is so important looking upon each achievement in our life and appreciating them is good for the soul thanks for this lovely post .

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:08 PM

      Dear Natalia, thank you for reading and thanks for the compliments! 🙂

  46. Molly Clifton
    Wednesday November 9th, 2016 at 09:50 PM
    Reply

    Love these photos. You look great my friend! There truly is so much to be thankful for if we take the time to stop and reflect. Thanks for inspiring me to practice gratitude today!

    Keep smiling!
    Molly | http://www.stylemissmolly.com

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      Tuesday November 15th, 2016 at 08:09 PM

      Thank you for inspiring me as much as you do, Molly! You’re a true inspiration! And thanks to you I do keep smiling 🙂
      xoxo
      Thomas

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