[:en]If you’re not fluent in French (not that I am, but I’m getting there, haha) this sweater might just be a cute sweater with a nice 3D print on it. Well, in Paris, it’s not. It says “bad boy”. I myself wouldn’t raise an eyebrow reading that on a sweater, but apparently there’s much more to it than just bad boy… Apparently it’s a very naughty boy and the actual meaning (with sexual associations) comes with cultural interpretations I had no idea of, so when I was wandering the streets of PFW wearing this people were actually staring, not always with a smile on their face, haha.
But screw that. At least people saw me and I love my sweater. And hey, I DID put a parental advisory warning on my cap too…
On a more serious note though, I’m as far from being a bad boy as you get. I’ve never been in a fight in my life and seriously would have no idea what to do if I actually happened to be in one. I’d probably just linger myself out of it by talking which is how I deal with every hardship that crosses my path. I’m always trying to be diplomatic. Diplomacy does NOT mean giving up on your own beliefs or values however. I always stick to my point of view. Nowadays that is. I used to be a real people pleaser to the degree that I forgot who I was and basically just did what everyone else thought I should do and what was best in other peoples opinion. In my endless need to be nice to everyone I forgot to be nice to myself. That’s a thing of the past though. Nowadays, however pleasant I am to people, I NEVER give up on my values or beliefs. As I’ve said before: I’m always true to myself.
The lesson learned today is hence: Stay true to yourself people! No matter if you’re wearing something other might not approve of or if your values aren’t to everyone’s liking.
Cap: H&M
Sweater: River Island
Backpack: ElevenParis
Jeans: H&M
Shoes: Gucci
Photos: Tay Calenda[:sv]Om du inte talar flytande franska som jag (njae, långt ifrån faktiskt) så skulle den här tröjan inte vara mer än en snygg tröja med ett coolt 3D tryck. Det står dock egentligen för “stygg pojke”. Visst, jag är inte pryd och har väl aldrig ens hävdat det, men tydligen finns det i den franska uppfattningen av uttrycket stygg pojke en underton av något sexuellt och smutsigt. Detta blev jag varse om när jag hade denna outfit på PFW och visst, modefolket hade inget emot den, men gamla damer på gatan tittade lite snett och ogillande på mig. Det gör mig faktiskt inget att folk stirrar då jag är van vid det, speciellt utomlands, dessutom hade jag faktiskt försett min outfit med en keps med varningstext. Så det så.
Men för att vara lite allvarlig så är jag varken en stygg eller elak gosse, tvärtom. Jag har aldrig varit inblandad i ett slagsmål och vet ärligt talat inte hur jag skulle agera i en sådan situation. Troligtvis skulle jag försöka snacka mig ur situationen och vara diplomatisk. Det har ju alltid funkat förr. Till skillnad från förr är jag dock inte en “people pleaser” längre. Förr var jag så mån om att vara alla till lags att jag glömde bort mitt egenvärde och lät andra styra mina åsikter och mina handlingar till den grad att jag mådde dåligt av det. Det tillhör dock det förflutna. Numera är jag fortsatt diplomatisk, men utan att för den del rucka på mina åsikter eller värderingar. Jag lyssnar, tar till mig, men har ändå min egen ståndpunkt.
Så dagens läxa är därmed: Var alltid vänlig och trevlig och ta folks åsikter i beaktande, men inte till den grad att de skulle få styra vad du har på dig eller vad du själv tycker. Stå på er gott folk!
Keps: H&M
Tröja: River Island
Ryggsäck: ElevenParis
Jeans: H&M
Skor: Gucci
Foton: Tay Calenda[:]
Stephanie
November 7, 2016 at 11:58 pmHaha oh my! It’s kind of funny that people noticed the sweater in that way. But I definitely don’t think you’re a bad boy – you’re one of the sweetest guys I’ve ever met (and I always look forward to your posts and your kind comments). Keep being you, boo!
Stephanie // SheSawStyle.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:17 pmAww, Stephanie, you’re too sweet 🙂
Josie
November 8, 2016 at 12:28 amHaha je parle Français moi et c’est tellement drôle que les gens l’ait interpreté de cette façon lol
I really like what you’ve learn with time: staying true to oneself. I could not agree more with everything in this post!
Josie // http://www.petiteandbold.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:18 pmHaha, mais c’est pas mal! 😉
Thank you for your kind comment, Josie! 🙂
Rachel
November 8, 2016 at 12:58 amI love that sweater on you. People only staring because you look too dang good in it :-).
xoxo, Rachel
http://www.rachelvogttrends.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:23 pmHaha, aww, well thanks for the compliments babe! 🙂
Lily
November 8, 2016 at 1:56 amI love your style so much, every single piece! Totally crushing on that Karl sweater!! Have a wonderful week! Xx
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:23 pmThanks Lily! I try to keep it up! 😀
xoxo
Thomas
Jo
November 8, 2016 at 2:30 amI was laughing so hard while reading this post – just imaging you were wondering around in Paris streets and being stared by the strangers. You know what? You look so incredibly handsome in this blue sweater so who cares what others say. I completely agree that we should always stay true to ourselves, yet always be open to learn (like French so you can be more fluent :)).
xo,
Jo
http://www.glamfashionbook.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:25 pmHaha, sweetie, making me blush here for real!!!! Loves ya girl! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Jo
November 8, 2016 at 2:34 amI love that sweater! I love it even more, now that I know what it means!
xo, Jo
http://www.cutandchic.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:25 pmHaha, you’re so cute, Jo! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
diana
November 8, 2016 at 2:47 amTotally agreed with Stephanie, that you are the sweetest
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:25 pmAww, thank you sweetie! 😀
Cece Lam
November 8, 2016 at 2:52 amLove your outfit as always!! Hope youre having an amazing start of the week Thomas 🙂
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:26 pmThank you so much dear! 🙂
Samantha Mariko
November 8, 2016 at 3:03 amI wish I could read and speak French haha. that is a cute sweater and backpack!
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:27 pmI wish I could too, haha. Thanks sweetie 🙂
Miki
November 8, 2016 at 3:27 amThat’s so funny that you walked around the street and people are looking at you with different expressions! I think that’s the most entertaining thing when you’re wearing something that’s either fun or interesting. It’s so important to stay true to yourself and I think that’s really cool that you put this really stylish outfit together. I love that you wore the advisory cap with your sweater. So smart and amazing all at the same time.
Xo,
Miki
http://mikialamode.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:28 pmThank you so much for you cute compliments! 🙂 I’m sitting here and looking back at when it happened and actually it was quite funny 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Danielle
November 8, 2016 at 3:34 amI totally agree with Jo on this one! Love a fashion statement that attracts a few more stares than usual, especially when it’s a great piece! Navy is DEFINITELY your color….so handsome! ?
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:29 pmHaha, you’re so sweet! And yeah, I love navy so I’ll have to wear it more 😀 *blushing here!!!*
Linh Dao
November 8, 2016 at 3:44 amI don’t understand French haha but I have a little French blood in me! That’s so funny that you were walking around with this sweater on but it looks great on you! I totally get the people pleaser part and forgetting who you are! I was the same way before too until I realize I come first! I’m glad you think that way too!
Linh
http://xcapewithlinh.com/holiday-fever/
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:30 pmI’m glad you’ve come to the same conclusion I have. We are the most important people in our lives! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Camille Nichelini
November 8, 2016 at 3:54 amI admire your love for Karl apparel ?
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:30 pmHaha, thank you Camille! 🙂
samira
November 8, 2016 at 4:37 amyou look great!! love the entire look and all these great pieces!
xo, samira
wwe.leathertolunch.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:30 pmThank you so much Samira! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
gigi
November 8, 2016 at 4:39 amLove what you say about diplomacy not meaning you should give up your own beliefs! That’s so true. Great words as always! you always make me think a little harder before I go to bed 😉 xx
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:31 pmAww, I’m glad I actually make people think and am thankful for your kind words! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Jen
November 8, 2016 at 4:42 amYes, always be true to yourself. I love how you paired your outfit with graphic writing starting with the Parental Advisory hat, then Le Vilain Garcon to Karl is My Father. Brilliant!
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:32 pmHaha, thank you Jen! It was honestly more of an accidental pairing than a thought out one, but let’s keep that as our little secret! 🙂
Candace
November 8, 2016 at 5:00 amDefinitely going to follow your advice and always stay true to myself. No one has to like me but me really. I also have never gotten into a fight…physically haha. Nice backpack!
http://www.thebeautybeau.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:33 pmExactly, who cares about what other people think!! 🙂 And thank you!
francesca
November 8, 2016 at 6:07 amreally digging your style! Im right with you..I’ve never been in a fight either! Im kinda curious as to how I would react haha
francesca
Frank Vinyl : A California Fashion Blog
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:33 pmHaha, probably the same way as I… run for your life. 🙂 And thanks sweetie! 🙂
Christine Kong
November 8, 2016 at 9:13 amHehe, bad boy! Too cute. I love that you are wearing this but you aren’t a bad boy and have never been. I do believe you have to stay true to yourself and also be kind to yourself like you said. I love these joggers with the sweatshirt! xoxo, Christine
http://dailykongfidence.com/
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:34 pmThank you sweetie! 🙂 Your comments make me happy every time! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Mandy Arisa
November 8, 2016 at 11:51 amHave you been a bad boy Thomas ;P?
I love that you’re actually the opposite and so diplomatic ! Love that about you 🙂
This was such a nice read Thomas – please always stay true to yourself.
http://ministryforstyle.com/
x Mandy
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:37 pmUhm… noooo (A), haha. You know me, I never am, Mandy!!
xoxo
Thomas
Michelle
November 8, 2016 at 1:41 pmI totally agree. Just do you. And I love that backpack – so funny 🙂
XO
http://www.lehoarder.com/
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:37 pmAww thanks sweetie! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Jessie
November 8, 2016 at 1:55 pmThis travel outfit is so cool ! Love this bad boy-ish look 🙂
xx
Jessie
http://4evajessie.com/wanted-piece-autumn-winter/
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:37 pmThank you so much, Jessie! 🙂
Gina Diaz
November 8, 2016 at 2:02 pmGreat post Thomas, I enjoyed it so much! I love every picture, the styling, the color, and you in it. Xx, Gina
http://www.artsyrunway.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:38 pmAww Gina, you’re the sweetest! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
michenn
November 8, 2016 at 3:36 pmLove this look, especially your jeans. The whole look and style is perfect. . .perfect “bad boy” look <3
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:38 pmHaha, I can always pretend… 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Isabel
November 8, 2016 at 3:48 pmMy dear, people look at you because you’re a stunner and incredibly handsome! But that cute sweater helps, that’s true 🙂
Love your lesson today ( and all the others ones) : I always stand up for my beliefs ( and that had cost me some headaches…) and I’m true to myself ( best way to keep a good skin…no wrinkles!).
Keep your honesty and kindness! You’re truly special !
Love,
Isabel
http://www.bloggingmycloset.blogspot.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:40 pmAww Isabel, serious blushing going on here!! And haha, I love that “tip” for avoiding wrinkles!
You’re equally special dear!
Love,
Thomas
Jordan Chapman
November 8, 2016 at 4:03 pmI speak French, so I love that jumper!! It’s really awesome and RI makes the best bits!
Jordan xx
http://www.thehatlogic.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:40 pmThey truly do right 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Fe Samaia
November 8, 2016 at 4:09 pmI love the sweater on you Thomas and I am so happy that you are able to be true to yourself. SO many people struggle with this and it can make a life miserable if you are constantly trying to please others so I am very happy for you 🙂
xoxo
Fe
http://www.fesamaia.com/20162017-trends-pleated-items/
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:41 pmAww, thank you so much, Fe. You always make me feel better! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Lisa mao
November 8, 2016 at 5:14 pmFirst things first, I love the sweater !! And I totally agree with you – the most important thing is to always be true to yourself and your own values and beliefs ! 🙂
http://www.wanderlustts.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:42 pmFirst things first, I’m so thankful for your compliments! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Kathryn
November 8, 2016 at 6:16 pmLet them stare — you look amazing in this outfit!! I love how unapologetically yourself you are, you are seriously an inspiration!
Xx, K
http://www.jassamineelaine.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:42 pmAww, Kathryn! Thank you! There is a humble person in here saying he appreciates what you just said! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Ewelina
November 8, 2016 at 6:29 pmAmaze pictures!!
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:43 pmThanks 🙂
Lady Goldapple
November 8, 2016 at 7:00 pmI love your sweater, being a bad boy isn’t a bad thing tho sometimes 😉 Personally I immediately had to think of Karl Lagerfeld, but I think it’s about another Karl? :p Staying true to yourself is such an important thing. Believe in yourself, stick to your own values and live a happy life! Love & Kisses, Charissa – Lady Goldapple
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:44 pmHaha, I know exactly what you mean and I didn’t say I was nice all the time 😉 And you got the right Karl, so no worries. It’s mister Lagerfeld himself, haha.
Lotsa love back!
Thomas
Yasmin
November 8, 2016 at 7:18 pmNow that you’ve put it into context, this outfit has so many more layers to it! Figurative of course 😉 Love how you made a statement (with or without knowing) with both the hat and the t-shirt. Fashion is all about making a statement and showing who you are 🙂
xx Yasmin
http://banglesandbungalows.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:45 pmHaha, I didn’t even realize the figurative layers until I actually started writing this post. 🙂 Thanks for noticing!
xoxo
Thomas
Brittany
November 8, 2016 at 7:42 pmSo hilarious! But gotta love a fashion statement ;))
xx
outofofficeny.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:45 pmSo true hun, so true! 🙂
Jennifer Quattrucci
November 8, 2016 at 9:46 pmAlways such a pleasure to visit your blog !!!!! Love the sweater, regardless of the meaning. Maybe I love it more , actually because of the meaning ! I’m not sure but I do adore you and your fabulous style !
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:46 pmAs much as I adore you and your incredible fashion sense, Jennifer! 🙂
Love,
Thomas
gracie
November 8, 2016 at 9:50 pmI have always believed fashion is an artful expression of who we are, that’s is why I fell in love with it ! You should always stay true to yourself. And hey, like you said, you gave out a parental warning 🙂
xx, gracie
snappedbygracie.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:46 pmHaha, I sure did, so they shoulda blamed themselves! 😉 And very true indeed, fashion is a way of expressing who we are! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Helen Chik
November 8, 2016 at 10:00 pmLife’s too short to be people pleasing your way! I just try to surround myself with positive people and then cut people who have negative vibes out of my life. Positive people will respect your opinions!
Anyways I LOVE that sweatshirt! <3
Helen xx
https://ch1k.com/finding-your-perfect-summer-party-outfit
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:47 pmThat’s totally the right way to go girl! 🙂 And thanks for your compliment, Helen!
xoxo
Thomas
Kusum
November 8, 2016 at 10:23 pmLOL now it all makes sense, I had no idea when I read that caption on your Instagram a few days ago, Santa better be bringing you a gift now! And are you kidding me, you have never been in a fight in your life, that is seriously amazing #goals! Loved reading your positive message, you are such a wonderful person Thomas!
xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:48 pmThank you so much Kusum! I really appreciate all your love! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Deddeh Howard
November 9, 2016 at 1:13 amYou’ ve never been in a fight in my life? seriously that’s amazing, you’re such a good boy. I love this look by the way?
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:48 pmHaha, I’m truly a good boy… Most of the time 😉
xoxo
Thomas
Atsuna Matsui
November 9, 2016 at 1:44 amYou look so casual and cool in the denim joggers! Your style here is so street.
xoxo
http://www.atsunamatsui.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:49 pmThanks Atsuna! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Jenn Hanft
November 9, 2016 at 4:09 amAhh that’s so hilarious!! Definitely a way to spice up your day walking the streets of Paris! But yess I agree so much! I used to be such a people pleaser too! I think it’s because I preferred seeing the people around me happy, but it eventually caught up and hurt me to the point where I chose their happiness over my own. So I learned you can’t always please everyone and that’s okay! Standing up for your own beliefs is the most important thing.
Xoxo Jenn
http://www.jennsemble.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:49 pmSo very true and I agree with everything you just said. 🙂 Thanks for reading!
xoxo
Thomas
Sharon Wu
November 9, 2016 at 4:10 amThomas! You are literally the MASTER of styling prints! I’m so jealous! I wish I looked as good as you wearing statement sweaters, tees, hats, backpacks… you pull everything off so flawlessly. You are flawless <3 hehe love how you always stay true to yourself and to me when we talk! So rare to come across people like you these days. Keep being awesome, and being you!!! xo, sharon
http://www.stylelullaby.com/personal/the-business-tip-need-grow-business/
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:50 pmHaha, honey, you’re the master of everything I’m not, so let’s be envious lil bickering twins, ok? 😉
Lots of love,
Thomas
Bernice
November 9, 2016 at 11:42 amOmg when did you find out what it meant?! I remember in grade two I wore a shirt that said “captian of the all star snogging team” for about three months and none of my grade or myself knew what it meant! Only a few years later did I learn haha
http://www.bunnybernice.com/single-post/2016/11/09/Kent-and-Lime-Review
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:51 pmWell, basically too late, haha. And that seriously made me laugh!!! Was it true though? Were you the captain of that team? 😉 Hahahaha.
xoxo
Thomas
Andreea Birsan
November 9, 2016 at 9:40 pmHaha, the story is totally funny, and I am sure you’re not a bad boy! Love the over all outfit, it looks so cool and fresh at the same time. Have a lovely day! <3
Andreea,
http://couturezilla.com/
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:52 pmThank you so much sweetie! Love right back at you 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Marcy
November 10, 2016 at 3:56 amVery cool sweater bad boy hahaha just kidding! Really enjoy reading it! Please keep sharing
Xx
Marcy
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:52 pmHaha, thanks Marcy! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Darlene
November 10, 2016 at 4:30 pmWell if you wear that in Paris then people will stare because they understand, but I’ll pretend I didn’t know the translation, then I’ll be like “Wow thats a great sweater! and its in french too! so cool” hahahaha love your jeans too. and people will always stare, who gives an f what they think?
x
Thenewgirl
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:53 pmI know I don’t and I know you don’t, so let’s just be awesome! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
Natalia K
November 12, 2016 at 4:33 amI think that’s hilarious if people are getting offended by some words on a sweater then they need to get a life Ha ha
It’s only fashion people!
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:53 pmBut fashion is life, right? 😉
Camille
November 12, 2016 at 2:24 pmGreat post, thanks for sharing and I love your style 🙂
Camille xo
http://www.cococami.blogspot.co.uk
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:53 pmThanks a lot, Camille!
xoxo
Thomas
Jessica
November 14, 2016 at 3:34 amThat’s pretty funny! At least now you know the deal! And look cool doing it! xo, Jessica
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:53 pmWell, now I know where to wear it, haha.
xoxo
Thomas
Muriëlle van Schaik
November 14, 2016 at 5:14 pmYou know I love your style. Wish more men would dress like you! XO Muriëlle van Schaik http://www.muriellevs.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:54 pmAww, that is the greatest compliment you could seriously give me right now! Thank you so much sweetie!
xoxo
Thomas
Julia
November 14, 2016 at 5:30 pmGreat post Thomas! I love your sense of style (and fun!) and I love how you always stay true to yourself too!
Julia x
http://www.thevelvetrunway.com
thomasfalkenstedt.com
November 15, 2016 at 8:54 pmThank you so much Julia! 🙂
xoxo
Thomas
shaine
November 18, 2016 at 9:01 amI really had fun reading this post, whatever but I just love the details of your sweater dear and it totally looks good on you! 🙂
Xo, Shaine
Bad Habits
Yuena Li
November 24, 2016 at 9:39 amWhat a cute bag!! and I saw a tiny smirk !! :DD Love your smile do it more!!
With love,
Yuena
http://simplyyue.wordpress.com