[:en]All these layers[:sv]Lager på lager[:]

Fashion, Life itself November 16, 2016 thomasfalkenstedt.com

[:en]Last week we had our first snow here in Sweden and in Stockholm it was the worst snow storm in over a 100 years. I’m actually quite glad I wasn’t there at the time and by now it’s thankfully melted away as I’m heading there tomorrow. Don’t get me wrong. I do like snow, but that’s for approximately 10 days before Christmas and as far as I’m concerned it could just as well melt away when Christmas is over and done with.

Cold weather requires layers. Sure. But apart from layering up in my pictures, that’s all the fashion I’m going to talk about today except I’m going to give a shout out to the wonderful beanie from Sätilä of Sweden (and yeah, I’m a lil patriot when it comes to local brands) as well as the comfy cardigan from Esprit. I’m going to stick to discussing layers though. I believe there are so many layers to people and often it’s only the utmost layer that is visible to others.

I like to think of myself of an onion. The more layers you peel off, the more likely it is you will end up in tears. And sure, that might sound like a joke, but it’s not. I’m a perplex person and the further past my different layers you get, the more likely you are to find me adorable. The problem is that the feeling isn’t always mutual and then I find myself in a situation where I realize I’ve told way too much about myself (which is not a problem) which has made someone else getting mixed signals about what my intentions with that relationship was. That’s basically the story of my life. Whenever I open up, someone falls for me. And no, I don’t say this to hurt anyone, nor do I want to brag about being irresistible (although I am), but the thing is I’ve decided to stick to keeping a certain distance to people as I’ve noticed that the more I involve them in my life, the more likely they are to get the wrong idea of where that friendship is heading. Is this all in my head? No. Is it about my fears of commitment? Yes. Do I like it? No. The bottom line is still that it’s really hard to get past my multiple layers and that I use them as some kind of self defence mechanism in order not to get hurt, nor hurt someone else. What I basically wanted to say is that I’m a highly lovable person, but this onion has been peeled way too many times to be edible, at least for the moment.

Beanie: Sätilä of Sweden
Cardigan: Esprit
Gloves: H&M
Jeans: River Island
Sneakers: H&M

Photos: Thomas Sandau [:sv]Förra veckan snöade det något så in i helskotta, åtminstone i Stockholm med omnejd, men även här i Skåne fick vi vår första snö för i år. Ett faktum jag inte är alltför lycklig över då jag anser att snö är fint på bild och när man kollar ut genom fönstret, men att vada i snöslask tillhör inte mina favoritsysslor. Däremot är det ett ypperligt tillfälle att klä sig med lager på lager och gosa in sig i mysiga tröjor. Förutom min outfit på bilderna tänker jag däremot inte prata så mycket om just mode, förutom att jag slår ett slag för den härliga mössan från Sätilä of Sweden samt den värmande koftan från Esprit, utan håller mig till just lager.

Jag brukar likna mig själv vid en lök. Ju fler lager av löken du skalar av, desto större är chansen att dina ögon kommer att tåras. Det låter ju inte som den perfekta kontaktannonsen direkt, men jag märker att ju fler lager jag skalar av, desto fler är antalet människor som faller för mig. Vare sig det är på ett djupt eller mer allmängiltigt plan. Detta är självfallet inget problem i sig då det är mycket smickrande, men faktum är att det blir jobbigt om känslan inte är ömsesidig. Jag är glad över att jag har ändrats så mycket som person att fler och fler upptäcker mig för den jag är, det vill säga älskvärd. Däremot så kan det vara väl så jobbigt. Jag är mycket medveten om att jag är en öppen, flörtig och “fysisk” person. Det vill säga, jag rör på folk, kramar dem ohämmat för att inte tala om kindpussar i rätt sammanhang. Detta är något alla inte gör och jag har förstått att detta kan skapa viss förvirring i vad det egentligen jag är ute efter. Jag kan bara konstatera att det är en del av min personlighet och något jag inte kommer att ändra på. Jag skriver inte detta inlägg för att såra någon, än mindre för att skryta om att jag är älskvärd (vilket jag förvisso är). Jag skriver det för att jag måste få ut det helt enkelt. Är min reaktion mitt eget påfund? Nej. Är jag nöjd med situationen? Nej. Handlar det om mina problem med att släppa någon alltför nära inpå livet? Ja. Så det här är ytterligare en sak jag får bearbeta helt enkelt. Däremot tänker jag inte sluta vara allt det ovannämnda, men jag kommer att sätta tydligare gränser. Den här löken har skalats till den grad att knappt några tårar går att utvinnas ur den längre.

Beanie: Sätilä of Sweden
Cardigan: Esprit
Handskar: H&M
Jeans: River Island
Sneakers: H&M

Foton: Thomas Sandau [:]

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51 Comments

Lily
November 16, 2016 at 4:03 pm

Ahhh – so glad you missed that snow storm!! It gets crazy here in Reno too, I just hate driving in it but I do love watching it 🙂 I love the analogy you used with the onions, thanks so much for opening up with us and telling us a bit more about yourself. Great read!
michenn
November 16, 2016 at 4:03 pm

Awww I love how you described your layers almost like an onion! So true and I remember feeling like that all the time. So many layers and you don’t really want to show them to everyone!

That said, the beanie looks super cute on you! I have such a love/hate relationship with beanies; I think they look SUPER CUTE on and I like them for like 2 minutes and then I just want to rip them off my head haha. But I love this on you and how you styled it with that cardigan!

michenn

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Molly
November 16, 2016 at 4:18 pm

I am loving that sweater and beanie on you! In Seattle we rarely get snow, so when we do its a nice treat. I’m always loving how open and honest you are with your readers. Being vulnerable is never easy and I too feel like that onion with many layers! Love the depth you have!

Keep smiling!
Molly | http://www.stylemissmolly.com
Candace
November 16, 2016 at 5:07 pm

I’m with you. I’m not a huge fan of the snow…unless it only lasts for a couple of days and doesn’t come back until the following year lol. What a great analogy you made comparing yourself to an onion. It’s never a great idea to open up to everybody, especially being hurt time and time again. Thanks for being an onion for us 🙂

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Christine Kong
November 16, 2016 at 6:22 pm

First of all, I LOVE this look! All the layers are so cozy and the colors are perfect together. This buttoned sweater is to die for and love that beanie too! And even though I don’t know all of your layers and will never get there, I still find you super adorable! I love your honesty and your opinions and how you are so true to yourself. xoxo, Christine
http://dailykongfidence.com/
Miki
November 16, 2016 at 6:56 pm

Love your sweater and this entire outfit. It’s so true that people can completely misunderstand when you are open with them. Your onion analogy is actually quite funny and spot on.

Xo,
Miki
http://mikialamode.com
Stephanie
November 16, 2016 at 7:36 pm

I have to admit that the second I saw the title of this post, I was hoping you were going to talk about how every person has layers. Thanks for making my hopes come to fruition 😉 I love when you open up, but I can also understand how becoming more vulnerable can end in heartbreak (on either end of the relationship). It can be challenging to find where to stop when you’re getting to know someone. Just know that I love all the layers I’ve seen so far (of course, because you’re irresistible hehe).

Stephanie // SheSawStyle.com
Rachel
November 16, 2016 at 7:53 pm

Thomas you always have the best style, loving all of these layers. Your knit cardigan sweater is just perfect.
xoxo, Rachel
 http://www.rachelvogttrends.com
Open Kloset By Karina
November 16, 2016 at 9:39 pm

Hey Thomas:)
Totally love your Outfit:) sooo Cool:)
The Hat super Sweet:)
Kisss
Jen
November 16, 2016 at 10:47 pm

We all have many layers. I think you just need to know how much to share and find the right time. You don’t want to completely cut yourself off from others or share wayyy too much from the get-go. Life is about balance and I’m sure you will find it in your relationships. 🙂
Jo
November 16, 2016 at 10:53 pm

I’ve you told on Instagram how much I loved this outfit, you pretty much look like one of those male models from a J Crew catalog I receive every month. You truly have the best man style! Reading your blog is like reading a story book each time. I have the same issues about opening up myself to others, maybe because I did experience heartbreaks in the past relationships when I was too open and became completely vulnerable. Oh by the way, I never once got teary eyes when I peel/chop onions :).

With love,
Jo
http://www.glamfashionbook.com
Jo
November 17, 2016 at 12:13 am

Even though it’s a men’s sweater, I totally want that sweater for myself! It looks so luxe, warm, and cozy. I am so not looking forward to winter here in NYC!! I’m sure it’s nothing like a Scandinavian winter, but it ain’t pretty either.

xo, Jo
http://www.cutandchic.com
Yasmin
November 17, 2016 at 12:26 am

I’m a huge fan of that sweater! It looks so luxe and cozy. And I love how your bangs are just peeking outside of your hat. It’s super cute!

xx Yasmin
http://banglesandbungalows.com
Samantha Mariko
November 17, 2016 at 12:49 am

your street style is always on point! I love how you layered the coat over the cardigan. Thanks for your thoughtful comment on my last post I enjoyed reading it!
Jordan Chapman
November 17, 2016 at 1:35 am

You really are pulling off the layering!!! Love that chunky knit cardigan and it looks really good on you!!
Jordan xx
http://www.thehatlogic.com
Gina Diaz
November 17, 2016 at 2:05 am

I love this outfit so much Thomas! you look very amazing in it and also, I love the colors as well. I find so sweet the way you have described yourself with the onion layers 🙂

much love, Gina

http://www.artsyrunway.com
samira
November 17, 2016 at 4:59 am

loving this look! that coat looks great on you, love all the layers!

xo, Samira

http://www.leathertolunch.com
Jenelle
November 17, 2016 at 6:20 am

So much snow!!! It sounds really cool, but I think I would get over it too!
This analogy is a good one, though, when you have gotten to that stage where you need a break from giving up so much of yourself only to have it not work out quite as planned, you need a break.
xx Jenelle
http://www.inspiringwit.com/
Helen Chik
November 17, 2016 at 8:51 am

I’m seriously loving that cardigan you’ve layered inside that coat! It’s so strange to see you rugged up when I’m melting away in the heat in Bangkok! You look fabulous as always!

Helen xx
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Eric K
November 17, 2016 at 1:03 pm

Glad you missed that snow buddy . We all have to reserve ourselves to some extend . I totally understand when you open up ppl tend to like you even more . I feel you , because I deal with the same. Amazing post buddy
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Tamara
November 17, 2016 at 6:12 pm

This sweater is soo gorgeous! and it looks so cozy and warm!

XoXo,

Tamara – LoveofMode.com
Linh Dao
November 17, 2016 at 11:24 pm

I SOOOO adore this look on you! So cute Thomas. I love the sweater, the beanie, and the gloves! Love a good layering when I see it. Talking about snow, that sucks that it was the worst in so long but it makes me miss snow thinking about it. Being in California, everything is dry and definitely no snow where I am at haha But I do enjoy the summer weather, so I guess I can’t complain but too much! Bundle up and keep warm babe!

Love, Linh
http://www.xcapewithlinh.com
Isabel
November 18, 2016 at 12:19 am

My dear, first things first: you look adorable with those colors and this knit is everything on you!
I can’t help saying again and again that I love your blog, It’s like reading your story 🙂 I love the way you open yourself to us.
Keep up the good work sweetie, can’t wait to read another post!
Love,

Isabel
http://www.bloggingmycloset.blogspot.com
Darlene
November 18, 2016 at 1:02 am

Ha! Luckily still hasn’t snow yet in Canada, much to my happiness, you look super ready for Winter. I actually like your sweater, do they have it for women’s? safe trip back to Sweden!

x
Darlene
Josie
November 18, 2016 at 1:22 am

I love how you write you make me laugh ever time lol
I also like how you open up to us! Love this look and I think it’s so good to support local brand.
As usual you have amazing style 😉

Bisous, Josie
http://www.petiteandbold.com
Tania
November 18, 2016 at 1:54 am

Love that cable-knit sweater, it looks like such a perfect winter piece. I always love seeing how people dress for cold weather since we don’t really have any of that in LA. Sounds like an epic snowstorm!!

You seem like such a thoughtful and sincere person. I could see how revealing too much of your true self to people might result in heartbreak. But, there are certainly worse problems to have than being too adorable! 😉

xx freshfizzle
Iliana Garcia
November 18, 2016 at 3:35 am

Snow already? I cannot wait for snow here in DC!
I LOVE your sweater, looks super cozy and comfy 🙂
gracie
November 18, 2016 at 4:35 am

Thomas I can totally relate to the layers of an onion comparison. I feel like I am like an onion as well. But I have struggled with letting people in because I am such a young worker bee that I forget to make time for relationships. I know that I need to let friends peel back that layer to see the real me. And on another topic, love the layered look perfect for heading back to Sweden, it sounds cold there !
xx, gracie
snappedbygracie.com
Sharon Wu
November 18, 2016 at 7:43 am

You look so warm Thomas! Lol! I love your onion comparison… not only do I love onions, but I also can totally relate in the way where I feel like I am an onion myself! It’s hard for me to trust people and let them in after well, some unfortunate events and relationships haha. Anyway, I’m loving your outfit and it looks perfect for the super cold weather in Sweden! It’s finally starting to cool down some here in LA so hopefully I’ll be able to break out my coats very soon 🙂 xo, sharon

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francesca
November 18, 2016 at 7:59 am

the styling here is so good! Love these cozy layers and the colors
francesca
Frank Vinyl : A California Fashion Blog
Martin Ebner
November 18, 2016 at 10:30 am

Touching article Thomas!

Love your cardigan and Gloves. Keep up the great work and please continue to provide us with fashion inspiration! Have a super weekend.
Fe Samaia
November 18, 2016 at 2:15 pm

Thomas I love how honest you are on your posts. Love reading about your thoughts and opinions 🙂
Your outfit looks amazing too!

xoxo
Fe
http://www.fesamaia.com/the-perfect-jumpsuit-for-a-sophisticated-french-look/
Kusum
November 18, 2016 at 5:12 pm

Awww I am sending you a tight virtual hug, Thomas! You are such a beautiful soul and sad to hear that this has happened to you. I love your honesty and transparency and my only advice to you would be surround yourself with people that do not take advantage of you but appreciate you for who you are and love you for the person you are. And I know its not easy, but don’t let the bad that has happened to you in the past distance yourself from some wonderful relationships and friendships you can find along the way!
xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com
Deddeh Howard
November 18, 2016 at 6:14 pm

I love that sweater on you. Layering is the best part of dressing up. If you can layer well, you got it down. Great job Thomas.
Nita
November 18, 2016 at 6:25 pm

I love your writing style and I’m totally jealous that you get snow!! We only get *maybe* an ice storm once a year here in Dallas, TX haha!! Excellent job layering btw!! <3
Bernice
November 18, 2016 at 9:33 pm

I love the Espirit knitted cardigan! They’re my favourite type of sweaters on guys as they look smarter haha

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Brittany
November 18, 2016 at 10:15 pm

Great gloves!

xx
outofofficeny.com
Jenn Hanft
November 19, 2016 at 3:53 am

Ah Thomas, I absolutely love this sweater!! It looks so warm and cozy! On a side note, I can relate to where you’re coming from to some degree. I remember that I actually used to compare myself to an onion believe it or not. Ive grown to shield myself with many layers and have grown to have serious trust issues. It’s a learned self defense mechanism because I’m shielding myself from getting hurt again by making it harder for people to get to know me. But with time those who prove patience will take their time to peel back the layers even if it may bring tears.
XO Jenn
http://www.jennsemble.com
Jennifer Quattrucci
November 19, 2016 at 11:18 am

I was meaning to get to your blog as soon as I saw the post about it . It sounded so intriguing and I wanted to wait til I had the time to sit down and enjoy it. First of all, I admire the fact that you support local brands and absolutely adore the beanie. I also agree with you about the snow !!!! Except I probably only want it 1 day and that’s Christmas after Santa has carefully delivered presents. I totally identify with you about the onion – the layers and telling too much – it’s made me reflect and not want to really open up again.
Lady Goldapple
November 19, 2016 at 3:48 pm

It seems to me that you’ve been hurt a lot… which is awful. But don’t let it affect the way you are, be, or act. Be sad about it, learn from it, get over it. I totally get you, because I got the same with people. I thought they were my friends, but they turned out to be completely different people with completely different agendas. At first you feel hurt, sad, maybe even used. But then you think: ok. Maybe it should be like this, I can learn from it. Sending you all my love <3
Hadasah Love (Style to Love)
November 20, 2016 at 1:11 am

Love everything about this post! So cute!
Love, Hadasah Love
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Alexandra
November 20, 2016 at 2:16 am

Ah! I love this post! Layering is so crucial for the winter! I love how you styled this featured look and especially those beautiful leather gloves! They make for a perfect holiday gift! Thank you for sharing! I really sure hope the snow has melted away upon your arrival!

Much love from NYC,
Alexandra
http://www.alexandrachloe.com
Atsuna Matsui
November 21, 2016 at 2:24 am

I’m loving all these layers for Fall. The knit cardigan looks soo comfy and I love the knit details of it! Your white sneakers also make this outfit a little more street and casual, which makes it great for everyday wear.

xoxo
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Marcy
November 21, 2016 at 6:32 pm

Love layerd and layers love you! Such a great look and style! Plesse keep sharing
Cece Lam
November 22, 2016 at 6:05 am

can I just say that you always slay??? amazing!!!
Taylor
November 24, 2016 at 12:10 am

Such a great layered look!
Love your coat!
xo.
http://www.itswhatsin.com
gigi
November 24, 2016 at 12:12 am

This cardigan is so perfect on you! I love the texture and the color. And I am totally with you on the snow. It’s good for about 2 weeks but that’s it!!
Laurelle
November 24, 2016 at 6:03 am

An onion is a great analogy for how complex we are!! And I loved your beanie and sweater!! I’m looking for good gifts for my husband and brother, so maybe I will add that to my list for them!
-Laurelle
http://www.bellebylaurelle.com
Darci
November 24, 2016 at 6:56 am

Wow all that snow, we don’t have a crazy storm here like that in Texas, but at least you have all the perfect layers! I love that cardigan and those sneakers babe!
Yuena Li
November 24, 2016 at 9:02 am

Love your outfit! I have a smile request though. I would LOVE to see you smile!!

With love,
Yuena
http://wordpress.simplyyue.com
Stefanie
November 28, 2016 at 6:05 pm

this is such a great outfit! I’m loving the sweater! I like snow OCCASIONALLY, only if it doesn’t last long and it doesn’t interfere with plans haha. but it is pretty every once in awhile 🙂