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All these layers

All these layers

Fashion, Life itself

Last week we had our first snow here in Sweden and in Stockholm it was the worst snow storm in over a 100 years. I’m actually quite glad I wasn’t there at the time and by now it’s thankfully melted away as I’m heading there tomorrow. Don’t get me wrong. I do like snow, but that’s for approximately 10 days before Christmas and as far as I’m concerned it could just as well melt away when Christmas is over and done with.

Cold weather requires layers. Sure. But apart from layering up in my pictures, that’s all the fashion I’m going to talk about today except I’m going to give a shout out to the wonderful beanie from Sätilä of Sweden (and yeah, I’m a lil patriot when it comes to local brands) as well as the comfy cardigan from Esprit. I’m going to stick to discussing layers though. I believe there are so many layers to people and often it’s only the utmost layer that is visible to others.

I like to think of myself of an onion. The more layers you peel off, the more likely it is you will end up in tears. And sure, that might sound like a joke, but it’s not. I’m a perplex person and the further past my different layers you get, the more likely you are to find me adorable. The problem is that the feeling isn’t always mutual and then I find myself in a situation where I realize I’ve told way too much about myself (which is not a problem) which has made someone else getting mixed signals about what my intentions with that relationship was. That’s basically the story of my life. Whenever I open up, someone falls for me. And no, I don’t say this to hurt anyone, nor do I want to brag about being irresistible (although I am), but the thing is I’ve decided to stick to keeping a certain distance to people as I’ve noticed that the more I involve them in my life, the more likely they are to get the wrong idea of where that friendship is heading. Is this all in my head? No. Is it about my fears of commitment? Yes. Do I like it? No. The bottom line is still that it’s really hard to get past my multiple layers and that I use them as some kind of self defence mechanism in order not to get hurt, nor hurt someone else. What I basically wanted to say is that I’m a highly lovable person, but this onion has been peeled way too many times to be edible, at least for the moment.

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Beanie: Sätilä of Sweden
Cardigan: Esprit
Gloves: H&M
Jeans: River Island
Sneakers: H&M

Photos: Thomas Sandau 

51 Comments

  1. Lily
    Wednesday November 16th, 2016 at 04:03 PM
    Reply

    Ahhh – so glad you missed that snow storm!! It gets crazy here in Reno too, I just hate driving in it but I do love watching it 🙂 I love the analogy you used with the onions, thanks so much for opening up with us and telling us a bit more about yourself. Great read!

  2. michenn
    Wednesday November 16th, 2016 at 04:03 PM
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    Awww I love how you described your layers almost like an onion! So true and I remember feeling like that all the time. So many layers and you don’t really want to show them to everyone!

    That said, the beanie looks super cute on you! I have such a love/hate relationship with beanies; I think they look SUPER CUTE on and I like them for like 2 minutes and then I just want to rip them off my head haha. But I love this on you and how you styled it with that cardigan!

    michenn

    michenn Chanel Slingbacks Review

  3. Molly
    Wednesday November 16th, 2016 at 04:18 PM
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    I am loving that sweater and beanie on you! In Seattle we rarely get snow, so when we do its a nice treat. I’m always loving how open and honest you are with your readers. Being vulnerable is never easy and I too feel like that onion with many layers! Love the depth you have!

    Keep smiling!
    Molly | http://www.stylemissmolly.com

  4. Candace
    Wednesday November 16th, 2016 at 05:07 PM
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    I’m with you. I’m not a huge fan of the snow…unless it only lasts for a couple of days and doesn’t come back until the following year lol. What a great analogy you made comparing yourself to an onion. It’s never a great idea to open up to everybody, especially being hurt time and time again. Thanks for being an onion for us 🙂

    http://www.thebeautybeau.com

  5. Christine Kong
    Wednesday November 16th, 2016 at 06:22 PM
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    First of all, I LOVE this look! All the layers are so cozy and the colors are perfect together. This buttoned sweater is to die for and love that beanie too! And even though I don’t know all of your layers and will never get there, I still find you super adorable! I love your honesty and your opinions and how you are so true to yourself. xoxo, Christine
    http://dailykongfidence.com/

  6. Miki
    Wednesday November 16th, 2016 at 06:56 PM
    Reply

    Love your sweater and this entire outfit. It’s so true that people can completely misunderstand when you are open with them. Your onion analogy is actually quite funny and spot on.

    Xo,
    Miki
    http://mikialamode.com

  7. Stephanie
    Wednesday November 16th, 2016 at 07:36 PM
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    I have to admit that the second I saw the title of this post, I was hoping you were going to talk about how every person has layers. Thanks for making my hopes come to fruition 😉 I love when you open up, but I can also understand how becoming more vulnerable can end in heartbreak (on either end of the relationship). It can be challenging to find where to stop when you’re getting to know someone. Just know that I love all the layers I’ve seen so far (of course, because you’re irresistible hehe).

    Stephanie // SheSawStyle.com

  8. Rachel
    Wednesday November 16th, 2016 at 07:53 PM
    Reply

    Thomas you always have the best style, loving all of these layers. Your knit cardigan sweater is just perfect.
    xoxo, Rachel
    
http://www.rachelvogttrends.com

  9. Open Kloset By Karina
    Wednesday November 16th, 2016 at 09:39 PM
    Reply

    Hey Thomas:)
    Totally love your Outfit:) sooo Cool:)
    The Hat super Sweet:)
    Kisss

  10. Jen
    Wednesday November 16th, 2016 at 10:47 PM
    Reply

    We all have many layers. I think you just need to know how much to share and find the right time. You don’t want to completely cut yourself off from others or share wayyy too much from the get-go. Life is about balance and I’m sure you will find it in your relationships. 🙂

  11. Jo
    Wednesday November 16th, 2016 at 10:53 PM
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    I’ve you told on Instagram how much I loved this outfit, you pretty much look like one of those male models from a J Crew catalog I receive every month. You truly have the best man style! Reading your blog is like reading a story book each time. I have the same issues about opening up myself to others, maybe because I did experience heartbreaks in the past relationships when I was too open and became completely vulnerable. Oh by the way, I never once got teary eyes when I peel/chop onions :).

    With love,
    Jo
    http://www.glamfashionbook.com

  12. Jo
    Thursday November 17th, 2016 at 12:13 AM
    Reply

    Even though it’s a men’s sweater, I totally want that sweater for myself! It looks so luxe, warm, and cozy. I am so not looking forward to winter here in NYC!! I’m sure it’s nothing like a Scandinavian winter, but it ain’t pretty either.

    xo, Jo
    http://www.cutandchic.com

  13. Yasmin
    Thursday November 17th, 2016 at 12:26 AM
    Reply

    I’m a huge fan of that sweater! It looks so luxe and cozy. And I love how your bangs are just peeking outside of your hat. It’s super cute!

    xx Yasmin
    http://banglesandbungalows.com

  14. Samantha Mariko
    Thursday November 17th, 2016 at 12:49 AM
    Reply

    your street style is always on point! I love how you layered the coat over the cardigan. Thanks for your thoughtful comment on my last post I enjoyed reading it!

  15. Jordan Chapman
    Thursday November 17th, 2016 at 01:35 AM
    Reply

    You really are pulling off the layering!!! Love that chunky knit cardigan and it looks really good on you!!
    Jordan xx
    http://www.thehatlogic.com

  16. Gina Diaz
    Thursday November 17th, 2016 at 02:05 AM
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    I love this outfit so much Thomas! you look very amazing in it and also, I love the colors as well. I find so sweet the way you have described yourself with the onion layers 🙂

    much love, Gina

    http://www.artsyrunway.com

  17. samira
    Thursday November 17th, 2016 at 04:59 AM
    Reply

    loving this look! that coat looks great on you, love all the layers!

    xo, Samira

    http://www.leathertolunch.com

  18. Jenelle
    Thursday November 17th, 2016 at 06:20 AM
    Reply

    So much snow!!! It sounds really cool, but I think I would get over it too!
    This analogy is a good one, though, when you have gotten to that stage where you need a break from giving up so much of yourself only to have it not work out quite as planned, you need a break.
    xx Jenelle
    http://www.inspiringwit.com/

  19. Helen Chik
    Thursday November 17th, 2016 at 08:51 AM
    Reply

    I’m seriously loving that cardigan you’ve layered inside that coat! It’s so strange to see you rugged up when I’m melting away in the heat in Bangkok! You look fabulous as always!

    Helen xx
    https://ch1k.com/hotel-hopping-with-ovolo-group-in-hong-kong

  20. Eric K
    Thursday November 17th, 2016 at 01:03 PM
    Reply

    Glad you missed that snow buddy . We all have to reserve ourselves to some extend . I totally understand when you open up ppl tend to like you even more . I feel you , because I deal with the same. Amazing post buddy
    http://www.erickfashion.com

  21. Tamara
    Thursday November 17th, 2016 at 06:12 PM
    Reply

    This sweater is soo gorgeous! and it looks so cozy and warm!

    XoXo,

    Tamara – LoveofMode.com

  22. Linh Dao
    Thursday November 17th, 2016 at 11:24 PM
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    I SOOOO adore this look on you! So cute Thomas. I love the sweater, the beanie, and the gloves! Love a good layering when I see it. Talking about snow, that sucks that it was the worst in so long but it makes me miss snow thinking about it. Being in California, everything is dry and definitely no snow where I am at haha But I do enjoy the summer weather, so I guess I can’t complain but too much! Bundle up and keep warm babe!

    Love, Linh
    http://www.xcapewithlinh.com

  23. Isabel
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 12:19 AM
    Reply

    My dear, first things first: you look adorable with those colors and this knit is everything on you!
    I can’t help saying again and again that I love your blog, It’s like reading your story 🙂 I love the way you open yourself to us.
    Keep up the good work sweetie, can’t wait to read another post!
    Love,

    Isabel
    http://www.bloggingmycloset.blogspot.com

  24. Darlene
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 01:02 AM
    Reply

    Ha! Luckily still hasn’t snow yet in Canada, much to my happiness, you look super ready for Winter. I actually like your sweater, do they have it for women’s? safe trip back to Sweden!

    x
    Darlene

  25. Josie
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 01:22 AM
    Reply

    I love how you write you make me laugh ever time lol
    I also like how you open up to us! Love this look and I think it’s so good to support local brand.
    As usual you have amazing style 😉

    Bisous, Josie
    http://www.petiteandbold.com

  26. Tania
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 01:54 AM
    Reply

    Love that cable-knit sweater, it looks like such a perfect winter piece. I always love seeing how people dress for cold weather since we don’t really have any of that in LA. Sounds like an epic snowstorm!!

    You seem like such a thoughtful and sincere person. I could see how revealing too much of your true self to people might result in heartbreak. But, there are certainly worse problems to have than being too adorable! 😉

    xx freshfizzle

  27. Iliana Garcia
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 03:35 AM
    Reply

    Snow already? I cannot wait for snow here in DC!
    I LOVE your sweater, looks super cozy and comfy 🙂

  28. gracie
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 04:35 AM
    Reply

    Thomas I can totally relate to the layers of an onion comparison. I feel like I am like an onion as well. But I have struggled with letting people in because I am such a young worker bee that I forget to make time for relationships. I know that I need to let friends peel back that layer to see the real me. And on another topic, love the layered look perfect for heading back to Sweden, it sounds cold there !
    xx, gracie
    snappedbygracie.com

  29. Sharon Wu
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 07:43 AM
    Reply

    You look so warm Thomas! Lol! I love your onion comparison… not only do I love onions, but I also can totally relate in the way where I feel like I am an onion myself! It’s hard for me to trust people and let them in after well, some unfortunate events and relationships haha. Anyway, I’m loving your outfit and it looks perfect for the super cold weather in Sweden! It’s finally starting to cool down some here in LA so hopefully I’ll be able to break out my coats very soon 🙂 xo, sharon

    http://www.stylelullaby.com/fashion/holiday-shopping-shoprunner/

  30. francesca
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 07:59 AM
    Reply

    the styling here is so good! Love these cozy layers and the colors
    francesca
    Frank Vinyl : A California Fashion Blog

  31. Martin Ebner
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 10:30 AM
    Reply

    Touching article Thomas!

    Love your cardigan and Gloves. Keep up the great work and please continue to provide us with fashion inspiration! Have a super weekend.

  32. Fe Samaia
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 02:15 PM
    Reply

    Thomas I love how honest you are on your posts. Love reading about your thoughts and opinions 🙂
    Your outfit looks amazing too!

    xoxo
    Fe
    http://www.fesamaia.com/the-perfect-jumpsuit-for-a-sophisticated-french-look/

  33. Kusum
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 05:12 PM
    Reply

    Awww I am sending you a tight virtual hug, Thomas! You are such a beautiful soul and sad to hear that this has happened to you. I love your honesty and transparency and my only advice to you would be surround yourself with people that do not take advantage of you but appreciate you for who you are and love you for the person you are. And I know its not easy, but don’t let the bad that has happened to you in the past distance yourself from some wonderful relationships and friendships you can find along the way!
    xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com

  34. Deddeh Howard
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 06:14 PM
    Reply

    I love that sweater on you. Layering is the best part of dressing up. If you can layer well, you got it down. Great job Thomas.

  35. Nita
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 06:25 PM
    Reply

    I love your writing style and I’m totally jealous that you get snow!! We only get *maybe* an ice storm once a year here in Dallas, TX haha!! Excellent job layering btw!! <3

  36. Bernice
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 09:33 PM
    Reply

    I love the Espirit knitted cardigan! They’re my favourite type of sweaters on guys as they look smarter haha

    http://bunnybernice.com

  37. Brittany
    Friday November 18th, 2016 at 10:15 PM
    Reply

    Great gloves!

    xx
    outofofficeny.com

  38. Jenn Hanft
    Saturday November 19th, 2016 at 03:53 AM
    Reply

    Ah Thomas, I absolutely love this sweater!! It looks so warm and cozy! On a side note, I can relate to where you’re coming from to some degree. I remember that I actually used to compare myself to an onion believe it or not. Ive grown to shield myself with many layers and have grown to have serious trust issues. It’s a learned self defense mechanism because I’m shielding myself from getting hurt again by making it harder for people to get to know me. But with time those who prove patience will take their time to peel back the layers even if it may bring tears.
    XO Jenn
    http://www.jennsemble.com

  39. Jennifer Quattrucci
    Saturday November 19th, 2016 at 11:18 AM
    Reply

    I was meaning to get to your blog as soon as I saw the post about it . It sounded so intriguing and I wanted to wait til I had the time to sit down and enjoy it. First of all, I admire the fact that you support local brands and absolutely adore the beanie. I also agree with you about the snow !!!! Except I probably only want it 1 day and that’s Christmas after Santa has carefully delivered presents. I totally identify with you about the onion – the layers and telling too much – it’s made me reflect and not want to really open up again.

  40. Lady Goldapple
    Saturday November 19th, 2016 at 03:48 PM
    Reply

    It seems to me that you’ve been hurt a lot… which is awful. But don’t let it affect the way you are, be, or act. Be sad about it, learn from it, get over it. I totally get you, because I got the same with people. I thought they were my friends, but they turned out to be completely different people with completely different agendas. At first you feel hurt, sad, maybe even used. But then you think: ok. Maybe it should be like this, I can learn from it. Sending you all my love <3

  41. Hadasah Love (Style to Love)
    Sunday November 20th, 2016 at 01:11 AM
    Reply

    Love everything about this post! So cute!
    Love, Hadasah Love
    http://www.styletolove.com | Instagram @hadasahlove

  42. Alexandra
    Sunday November 20th, 2016 at 02:16 AM
    Reply

    Ah! I love this post! Layering is so crucial for the winter! I love how you styled this featured look and especially those beautiful leather gloves! They make for a perfect holiday gift! Thank you for sharing! I really sure hope the snow has melted away upon your arrival!

    Much love from NYC,
    Alexandra
    http://www.alexandrachloe.com

  43. Atsuna Matsui
    Monday November 21st, 2016 at 02:24 AM
    Reply

    I’m loving all these layers for Fall. The knit cardigan looks soo comfy and I love the knit details of it! Your white sneakers also make this outfit a little more street and casual, which makes it great for everyday wear.

    xoxo
    http://www.atsunamatsui.com

  44. Marcy
    Monday November 21st, 2016 at 06:32 PM
    Reply

    Love layerd and layers love you! Such a great look and style! Plesse keep sharing

  45. Cece Lam
    Tuesday November 22nd, 2016 at 06:05 AM
    Reply

    can I just say that you always slay??? amazing!!!

  46. Taylor
    Thursday November 24th, 2016 at 12:10 AM
    Reply

    Such a great layered look!
    Love your coat!
    xo.
    http://www.itswhatsin.com

  47. gigi
    Thursday November 24th, 2016 at 12:12 AM
    Reply

    This cardigan is so perfect on you! I love the texture and the color. And I am totally with you on the snow. It’s good for about 2 weeks but that’s it!!

  48. Laurelle
    Thursday November 24th, 2016 at 06:03 AM
    Reply

    An onion is a great analogy for how complex we are!! And I loved your beanie and sweater!! I’m looking for good gifts for my husband and brother, so maybe I will add that to my list for them!
    -Laurelle
    http://www.bellebylaurelle.com

  49. Darci
    Thursday November 24th, 2016 at 06:56 AM
    Reply

    Wow all that snow, we don’t have a crazy storm here like that in Texas, but at least you have all the perfect layers! I love that cardigan and those sneakers babe!

  50. Yuena Li
    Thursday November 24th, 2016 at 09:02 AM
    Reply

    Love your outfit! I have a smile request though. I would LOVE to see you smile!!

    With love,
    Yuena
    http://wordpress.simplyyue.com

  51. Stefanie
    Monday November 28th, 2016 at 06:05 PM
    Reply

    this is such a great outfit! I’m loving the sweater! I like snow OCCASIONALLY, only if it doesn’t last long and it doesn’t interfere with plans haha. but it is pretty every once in awhile 🙂

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