This posts originates from me binge watching a Norwegian TV show for youth called SKAM (translates into ‘shame’) and if you’re not British, Russian or Chinese (apart from the obvious, Norwegian, Swedish, Danish or Finnish) you’re likely to never have heard of it. But to understand this post there’s no need for that. This show is an authentic portrayal of life itself, without any sugar coating. This show opened up my eyes once and for all and literally changed my life, and hence I need to pour my heart out in admiration for it (and that’s also why I’m wearing a sweater with two of the main characters’ names on it). There are already remakes on the way in the US and Canada, but let’s face it, remakes almost never are as good as the original. If you’re eager to see it, the show can be found subtitled online with some easy googling (nothing I encourage anyone to do of course…) So what about this show?
So far it’s been three seasons and I won’t bore you with the details. Shortly, in season three Isak and Even fall in love. Even is bipolar and that causes quite a lot of trouble. Isak decides to play a game called “Isak and Even, minute for minute”. Isak doesn’t care a flying fuck about the future. If you can’t make it a week, you take it day by day. If you can’t make it through a whole day, you take it hour by hour. If you can’t make it an hour, you take it minute by minute.
Isak simply doesn’t want to lose Even and lives for the moment instead of worrying about the future. The only thing we all can be certain of, no matter what we believe in, is that we might as well be dead tomorrow and that life is happening and that we need to live it. RIght now.
The storyline doesn’t affect me due to the fact that it’s portraying love between two guys. Of course love is love no matter what and it’s wonderful that love is normalized no matter what gender happens to be the object of your love. The thing that affects me about this show is normalization in general. It normalizes and raises awareness about all kinds of taboo subjects including eating disorders, religious and sexual minorities, jealousy, envy, anxiety, fear, happiness, joy and love. The show is a tossed salad with all the ingredients that constitute life itself.
The one thing the show raises awareness about that affects me the most is mental illness and mental health and normalizes it in a natural, yet undramatic way. Actually normalize is the wrong word here. It takes away the taboo from the unmentionable. It talks openly about mental illness and puts it all on the table. Shame is a good name for the show, but after having seen three seasons of it, I realize I no longer have any shame. I’m finally freed from so much shame and guilt. All that thanks to a TV-show. Sometimes it’s weird how your brain needs stimulation from something like this for you to finally come to peace with yourself.
(And here I need to pause from praising the show for a while to mention that Sergio Tacchini have joined the retro trend and have brought back a couple of sneakers with an 80s vibe which remind me of my childhood summers in Italy. I love everything retro, so bring it on!)
I was both shocked about how much guilt I was carrying around and almost indescribably blown away how much shame I still had and finally thanks to SKAM realized that I wasn’t the one who had fucked everything up with my addiction and the mental illness following my addiction. I found an incredible relief and comfort in finally realizing that I didn’t need the forgiveness of others to move on. I’m not the only one who has hurt people in this process, but I’ve been hurt too, really bad. I haven’t done everything wrong, far from it. It’s my turn to forgive others. No names need to be mentioned, I just want to say: I forgive you and respect your choice. What I got to experience with you was beyond incredible and the best thing that has happened to me and so very beautiful. It was love. You opened up my eyes to life. With that said I want to say that I today, more than ever before, live my life RIGHT NOW, right here. You had a choice. We could have taken it minute by minute. You weren’t mature enough or ready to make that decision. It isn’t until now I fully understand and realize that. I forgive you for that also.
There are so many reasons why I’m part of #teamisak. This is pioneering and ground breaking TV which gives solace and an ability to understand to people of all ages with problems of many different kinds. I’m so happy that Manners Apparel have chosen to show their support to Team Isak as well and thanks to them I can tell you why I admire Isak and his strength. Like I said, not because the kid is gay and all that, but because he unconditionally loves and dares to be loved, very much aware of the fact that tomorrow might be yet another day in hell (due to Evens bipolarity). Isak doesn’t give up, at least not right now. Everything isn’t perfect, but then again, love is not perfect. Despite his young age (17) Isak realizes that. Isak loves like there’s no tomorrow. For the moment. Right now.