This is not going to be a step-by-step guide in how you can gain confidence within matter of minutes. To be honest, all those are crap, although there are some truths in them. There are no shortcuts to happiness, becoming rich, successful, or as in this case, confident.
Let me start off by saying that I am still struggling with body issues and am not at all confident when I look in the mirror. One thing that does annoy me is that women think they are the only ones who have pressure from media and society to look a certain way. My dear female readers, take a look at any catalogue, billboard ad or magazine and look at the men in those. They’re most probably perfectly toned, have perfect abs as well as a perfect jawline and chin bones. I work in an industry surrounded by stunning people and often feel like I’m the ugly duckling among them. That is, if I let it get to me.
It takes a lot of practice to actually accept yourself and your body for who you are and what it is. Me walking semi-nude on the streets on Manhattan was not in my wildest dreams a while ago and flaunting it to all you readers out there most certainly was not even an option. By time I however have come to accept my body as it is and despite the fact that I’m still working on it to become better, both for health reasons as well as pure aesthetics, I’m quite ok with what I have now and don’t feel all too ashamed to flaunt it out there openly although a few cops in New York didn’t quite agree, but I just closed my robe and that problem was solved quite easily…
I still don’t have an answer to how I got from hiding to being ever so confident. I’m not only talking about my body. My self confidence is rocketing sky high, without compromising on the fact of always being humble and nice to everyone. I’m not cocky, but I am out there. In every single way. I’m putting myself out for dissection every single day and it takes a while every night to put the pieces back together, but it’s totally worth it. Only by deconstructing and reconstructing yourself constantly you can achieve peace with yourself.
That inner peace comes across as self confidence which in its turn will attract people to you, whether it is in terms of friends, love or business. Focusing on problems won’t take you anywhere, focusing on solutions will.
The lesson to be learned from this is really just one. Face your fears. Put yourself out there and the world will welcome you. Perhaps not always with open arms, it might even welcome you with a slap in the face at times, but eventually karma bites back and what you give, you get back. I’m giving. All the time. Immensely. What is important to remember is that the person or thing you give of yourself to doesn’t necessarily have to be the source of reimbursement, but due to laws of karma, universe will pay you back in one way or another. I’ve personally experienced all that.
The robe and the boxers that I’m wearing are from Ron Dorff, a company with origins in both Stockholm and Paris and their take on clothing, swimwear, underwear and what not is that it should be luxurious, elegant, subtle, yet with a twist. When they handed me over these pieces in Paris, I’m not sure they quite had a photo shoot like this in mind, but they have no idea what they actually ventured into when they’ll see my pictures from Mykonos later this year, haha.
To end this golden hour shoot and text about confidence I do urge you to smile every once in a while. I smile all day long, despite the fact that it might be hard to believe from my pictures I’m putting out here. Pass a smile on to someone and the world will smile back at you. I promise!