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[:en]Rocky road[:sv]Klättra i uppförsbacke[:]

[:en]Rocky road[:sv]Klättra i uppförsbacke[:]

Fashion, Life itself

[:en]Sometimes it feels like life is a rocky road and to be quite honest, I’ve been feeling it a lot lately. That’s until I actually sit down, think about where I am right now in life and realize how far I’ve come. There are a few bumps here and there, but really, I’m more than happy with what my life looks like right now. I might be a bit lost on where I’m heading tbh, as I’ve got not only one or two, but rather 20 things going on simultaneously. That doesn’t stop me though. I will sit down and think through where I’m actually heading in my life and my career.

Sometimes you need to face the fact that reality bites, but also appreciate what you have and live in the present. I keep preaching about the two latter ones all the time, but truly I’m really bad when it comes to following my own advice. I’ve taken up meditation again just to clear my mind (preferably) twice a day and that helps me gather my thoughts. In these days when the Christmas lights have been lit and we’re closer to the big holiday everything somehow feels better and I feel stronger than in a long, long time.

Bomber: Elly Pistol
Shirt: Garcia Jeans
J
eans: Cheap Monday

Shoes: H&M

Photographer: Joanna Bladh, Photostory[:sv]Ibland känns det som att livet är en enda stor uppförsbacke och på sistone har det varit märkbart. Jag har valt att se hindren och inte möjligheterna och det är först när jag sätter mig ner och tänker på hur fasikens långt jag kommit som jag egentligen förstår hur dum tanken om uppförsbacken är. Jag är ärligt talat lite vilsen om vilket håll mitt liv och min karriär lutar åt då jag inte bara håller på med en eller två saker, utan har cirka 20 sidoprojekt att ta ställning till ifall jag vill fortsätta med. Det hindrar mig dock inte från att köra på med full fart. Jag måste bara sitta ner och ta mig en funderare över vad jag faktiskt vill åstadkomma samt var och hur. Svårare än så är det inte.

Ibland får man bita i det sura äpplet som kallas vardag, eller för vissa, livet, men man måste stanna upp och njuta av livet och vad man åstadkommit samt leva i nuet. Jag är bra på att predika om just detta, men dålig på att följa mina egna råd. Jag har äntligen börjat meditera igen (helst 2 gånger per dag) och det hjälper mig för att rensa tankarna. Det gäller att vara positiv och blicka framåt (medan man lever i nuet, paradoxalt, jag vet). Njut även av denna årstid mina vänner. Som ni ser på bilderna kan även den ha sina stunder.

Bomberjacka: Elly Pistol
Skjorta: Garcia Jeans
J
eans: Cheap Monday

Skor: H&M

Fotograf: Joanna Bladh, Photostory[:]

45 Comments

  1. Jo
    December 3, 2017 at 10:11 pm
    Reply

    I’m sorry things area bit up in the air for you at the moment, Thomas, but I know you’ll pull through. All things will pass and you’re so right about staying present and grateful for all the positives in life. I wish you a very happy holiday season! XOXO

  2. Jennifer Quattrucci
    December 3, 2017 at 10:13 pm
    Reply

    I was really excited to see that you published a new blog post because I always look forward to reading about your experiences and seeing the new styles and settings. This post I was happier to see the last line which stated that you were feeling better. I hope and pray and have faith that it will last and only get better. I’m here for anything you need.

    Love,
    ( Your) Jenny

  3. Mariann yip
    December 3, 2017 at 10:22 pm
    Reply

    I can definitely relate because I have moments where I am going through a funky phase and get too caught up with my thoughts and emotions. I am actually feeling like that currently but like you said you need to be able to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. When it comes down to it, it’s not about what happens to us but how we react and I know you’ll get through this!

  4. Anthony @oh_anthonio
    December 4, 2017 at 12:57 am
    Reply

    Such a lovely post Thomas! I totally feel you on this because I’ve felt the same way. You should appreciate how far you’ve come!

  5. Simonetta Lein
    December 4, 2017 at 1:14 am
    Reply

    I am so happy to see that you feel better and you are back full of beautiful and positive pictures. Keep it up my dear!

  6. Samjah
    December 4, 2017 at 4:48 am
    Reply

    Thomas your post is right on time. You are so right about living on the moment but what you’re even more right about is taking our own advice! This is something I need to do myself! And about your outfit, fly! I’ve been so into plaid, men’s shirts lately. I love them! They are so stylish and can be worn many different ways.

  7. Eric Jess
    December 4, 2017 at 5:20 am
    Reply

    Makes me really feel like I need to get out to nature.

    Eric Jess
    http://whoisericjess.com

  8. Dom Baza
    December 4, 2017 at 7:12 am
    Reply

    My dear brother.
    You and me always reflecting on everything. Now I don’t know what’s been going on with you bts, but i will know soon, since we always talk. I’m glad your doing okay and you are back on here inspiring us all with your beautifully written and shot posts. Let’s keep moving forward and climbing, you and me always come out on top. We find a way. Always here for you. And btw I love the light shining down on you. Every little thing is gonna be alright.
    Love you!
    Your dear brother, Dom

  9. Jessie
    December 4, 2017 at 8:43 am
    Reply

    Life definitely is a rocky road. Maybe less than 1% of the populations in the world would have a smooth path. I guess that’s also the fun in Life, the DOWNS in our lives will make us to cherish the UPS even more. Love this bomber jacket. The red lining inside has definitely spiced things up a little 🙂

    xx, Jessie
    http://4evajessie.com/20-ways-to-improve-your-mood-this-winter/

  10. Aimara
    December 4, 2017 at 3:14 pm
    Reply

    First of all, love this outfit and these photos! You are so good at creating and telling a story Tom! 🙂
    I know exactly how you feel, but it’s part of life my friend! The important thing, is that overall you are happy!
    Hope you feel better soon!
    XO
    Aimara
    http://www.waysofstyle.com

  11. Nicole
    December 4, 2017 at 5:32 pm
    Reply

    Glad you are doing better, this time of year is usually a bit more stressful to me as a mom with 4 kids and all the hoop-lah surrounding the holidays! But I’m doing my best to stay grounded and remember what is most important! Take care and happy holidays!

  12. Open Kloset
    December 4, 2017 at 7:10 pm
    Reply

    Hey Love, Thomas
    How are you?
    I understand you 100% and I felt this too but you always do such an Amazing work and you Did so much already:)
    We have to be always positive even if it is more difficult.
    Love the full Look Thomas, the shirt is Amazing on you:)
    The Jacket tooo:)
    Perfect Style:)
    Happy Week
    Kisses Karina

  13. Megan @ Lush to Blush
    December 4, 2017 at 10:03 pm
    Reply

    I can absolutely relate to this. I love your sense of self though, and that you are doing your best to be aware of your emotions and turn hardships into triumphs. I also LOVE that you’re meditating!! So awesome.

  14. Jessica
    December 5, 2017 at 1:38 am
    Reply

    I can totally relate. I’ve been feeling in limbo at times, homesick and frustrated with my progress. That’s the thing though, I have made progress and so have you. I think we both need to try and take your advise and celebrate all that we have accomplished! I’m happy you’re feeling better and stronger right now ❤️

  15. Christine Kong
    December 5, 2017 at 2:29 am
    Reply

    I agree life is made up of bumps and rocky roads along the way but all of which make us stronger and survivors. You have accomplished so much already and have a lot more to go! This bomber is so chic and I love the red lining inside. It’s such an unexpected surprise to the look. These Cheap Monday jeans are a perfect fit on you too! Xoxo, Christine

  16. marcy
    December 5, 2017 at 3:50 am
    Reply

    Thomas I feel so identify with this post because just last week on my 30th bday I felt the same way!! Maybe was the 30 crisis lol but I agree meditation of where you are and analyse yourself it’s a good thing. No matter how many bumps and rocky roads we will get they always teach us a lesson and let us to a better path in life. Sending all the best vibes from Panama.

    xoxo
    Marcy

  17. Iliana Garcia
    December 5, 2017 at 4:10 am
    Reply

    Totally can relate 🙂 I love reading your posts, it’s good to be back.

    As for your outfit, I love the jacket and plaid. It’s super casual but looks great.

    xx
    Iliana | http://www.sophisticatedfashionista.com

  18. Azanique Rawl
    December 5, 2017 at 4:47 am
    Reply

    You are killing it! I love that jacket and the inside pop of color.

    -xo, Azanique | http://www.lotsofsass.com

  19. Marisol Avila
    December 5, 2017 at 5:21 am
    Reply

    Hey there! I know about getting into a funk. The holidays bring good feelings and sometimes some sad ones too. Great style btw

  20. Bernice
    December 5, 2017 at 7:36 am
    Reply

    The red plaid top goes beautifully with your bright red jacket! You’re always making statement outfits xx

    https://www.bunnybernice.com/single-post/2017/11/14/Koala-Summer-Sheet-Set-Duvet-Review

  21. samira
    December 5, 2017 at 7:48 am
    Reply

    I totally agree — life is a rollercoaster filled with unexpected bumps in the road but I love your perspective on it! I’ve heard a lot of great things about meditation and I need to try it!

    xo, Samira

    http://www.leathertolunch.com

  22. Nataly
    December 5, 2017 at 1:16 pm
    Reply

    Keep up the good work Thomas! It’s never a fun feeling when you aren’t quite sure which direction you are headed! But, have confidence and follow your passion! I am loving your style here too! Great plaid shirt!

  23. Suzanne Spiegoski
    December 5, 2017 at 3:31 pm
    Reply

    This time period can bring all sorts of blues to many. I’m sorry it’s been a rocky road, but remember it’s not the destination but the journey that counts! And you’re doing so much, keep going… you will be fine I promise! Sending lots of Light & Love. xoxoxo. Suzanne

  24. Stephanie
    December 5, 2017 at 4:05 pm
    Reply

    I can very much relate to this post right now. Life feels pretty dang rocky for me, but you’re right – if I stop and take a moment to look at how far I’ve come, I can be pretty proud of where I’m at. I’m glad to have someone like you writing posts that make me really consider my whole life!

  25. sheree
    December 5, 2017 at 7:25 pm
    Reply

    This is so inspirational! I am so happy that you have begun meditating to help during these stressful times. It is truly a magnificent tool to stay happy in the present moment. It’s so nice to hear that you are a place in your life where you feel very accomplished and happy with how far you have come. Keep up the positivity!

    ~xo Sheree
    PoshClassyMom.com

  26. Gina Diaz
    December 5, 2017 at 7:33 pm
    Reply

    Love the plaid shirt and the way you styled the whole outfit! I said before and I say it again, I love your style, Thomas. I enjoyed reading your post because right now I am also trying to focus more on the present and breath more and enjoy even more. Hope you had fun on Hamburg and can’t wait to see pics and a new blog post about this experience. xx. Gina

  27. Komal Patel
    December 6, 2017 at 1:07 pm
    Reply

    Def relate! Life can be hard and sometimes you want it to just be over, but then the little things make you happy, lights and all!

  28. Eva
    December 6, 2017 at 2:25 pm
    Reply

    Sweetie I hope you feel good and when you down please write more pats for us, we are all friends. I’m glad for you the forever of Christmas gives you to be stronger and I hope for other people become good persons 😉
    Regardless of what you wear I couldn see you without your white sneakers, beautiful and characterize you.
    Xx
    Eva

  29. LAFOTKA
    December 6, 2017 at 2:36 pm
    Reply

    You know so many of us get stressed about not knowing where we want to be or go in the near future. I personally think that we don’t need to know the future and just simply enjoy the natural flow of things. Living in the now as you say. I need to take up meditation!

    Tatyana x
    LAFOTKA

  30. Shruthi
    December 6, 2017 at 3:35 pm
    Reply

    Life is so interesting. One day good things happen and we like it, one day tough things happen and we hate it. For me, keeping a constant stream of gratitude everyday regardless of what happens, keeps me consistent and that helps me take on life with whatever is thrown my way that day haha! Also, I LOVE your style! Super chic.

  31. Meg
    December 6, 2017 at 3:36 pm
    Reply

    I’m glad you are seeing things in a positive light! I can very easily relate. It feels like everything has been pretty rough lately, but I realize how good I really have it and it makes everything easier to handle.

    http://www.meghanlaurie.com

  32. Amanda
    December 6, 2017 at 6:47 pm
    Reply

    Life always throws some bumps at us– hopefully the challenges will just make you that much more stronger!

  33. Sharon Wu
    December 6, 2017 at 7:51 pm
    Reply

    so funny i was just talking to another friend yesterday about life’s rocky road. with the holidays coming up and having a super cramped schedule, i definitely think things could be better but depending on the perspective i decide to look at it, it’s a positive thing too. even though i’m stressed out from all the work i have to do, i’m pretty blessed that i am staying busy and making progress! we’ll conquer life’s challenges together thomas! you look amazing as always <3 xo, sharon

    http://www.stylelullaby.com/fashion/ugg-gift-warmth-elevated-style/

  34. Sweet as Fiction
    December 6, 2017 at 9:46 pm
    Reply

    Meditation really helps so great to hear you’ve taken that on. Just getting physically active with help you deal when times seem questionable. Always keep your head up 🙂

    Sweet as Fiction xx
    http://www.sweetasfiction.com

  35. Gabriela Vera
    December 6, 2017 at 11:22 pm
    Reply

    I know the feeling Thomas. I quit my 40 hour job and got a 20 hour job so that I can focus on blogging full time. November was such a great month for me and December is even more crazy. However, I am thankful for everything I have and done this year. Although this business has it’s ups and downs at least I know it is temporary. I never been happier. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.

  36. Jen
    December 7, 2017 at 1:31 am
    Reply

    There are always ups and downs in life. You cannot enjoy the ups if you don’t have downs. I hope you choose to find the positive things (and I hope they find you) in life and I hope things turn out better for you especially as the holidays approach. We are always on your side Thomas!

  37. Samatha Mariko
    December 7, 2017 at 3:45 am
    Reply

    I live by those words too. Reality can be really f*cking harsh sometimes, and I’ve had my fair share in recent years. But it’s all about perspective and how you can use those experiences to your favor. Anyways, I’m pretty excited for the holiday season coming up, do you have any plans?? 🙂
    xo Samantha

  38. Jasmina
    December 9, 2017 at 2:03 am
    Reply

    You have impeccable style, and with white sneakers you really can do no wrong! Interesting photography too, linking your rocky road in your photos with how you’re feeling. But you’re right, Christmas lights just have a way of making everything seem brighter x

  39. Bianca
    December 9, 2017 at 5:13 pm
    Reply

    I love your bomber paired with this plaid shirt! So chic!

  40. Kamen Kamenov
    December 10, 2017 at 9:28 am
    Reply

    Hey babe…. let me start by stating the obvious…. u look so so stunning…. and now after we have established how shallow I am… haha… we can move forward
    I understand so good where u are coming from…. i feel like I could have written that post… because I feel the same…. exactly the same. Thank God it is beginning a lot like Christmas right?
    If u wanna talk…. I got ur back babe

  41. Valeria
    December 10, 2017 at 12:49 pm
    Reply

    Dear Thomas, sometimes the total absence of routine your job implies can be overwhelming. But as long as you are this insightful and realise it’s time to stop and meditate, you are doing great. You took these pictures in the most flattering light, you look especially handsome my friend. And I love how you rock that plaid shirt! Big hug, Valeria

  42. Rachel Vogt
    December 12, 2017 at 10:25 pm
    Reply

    I’m with you, a little bumping in life makes it more interesting. Love this outfit and those white sneakers.
    @rachelvogttrends
    https://rachelvogttrends.com

  43. Kyleigh McCollam
    December 17, 2017 at 3:38 am
    Reply

    I completely understand where you’re coming from! Thank you for letting me know I’m not the only one and also for this inspiration!

  44. click here
    October 16, 2018 at 10:33 am
    Reply

    JORD has fantastic watches. My fiancé and I both have one and love them. They’re unique, high-quality, and so pretty! Love the one you chose and love hearing about your holiday traditions!

    • thomasfalkenstedt.com
      October 16, 2018 at 7:29 pm

      I know right! I truly love mine! 🙂 Thanks for the feedback!

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